Weekly Ramble & Review

Well, this past week has been a ride..

Most non lifestyle folks find the concept of sharing your life partner with others virtually impossible to understand. How is it possible to maintain a perfectly stable & loving long term relationship while fucking other people?

Well, it's tempting to say it can be summed up with one word SEX, yes thats right, SEX.
Entering the lifestyle requires a large paradigm shift in conventional thinking, societal norms dictate that the standard male / female relationship breaks down as follows:

Boy meets Girl.
Boy dates Girl.
Boy marries Girl.
Girl divorces Boy a couple of years later..
BUT.
If things continue smoothly.
Girl gets pregnant.
Children, yay!
No need to look after yourself at this point, after all you don't need to impress anyone, right?
Sex life starts to dwindle (if it has not already done so).
Kids grow up.
Sex life virtually non existent at this point, he is no longer attracted to her, she's so frumpy.
He does fantasize a lot about fucking other Women though.
Like him, she has gone off sex & can't really understand why, she also fantasizes, why can't he be like those men in the Harlequin books or even more exciting, 50 shades of grey?
One of them meets someone new, maybe in a bar, at work, wherever & is attracted to them & starts an affair.
Other partner finds out, lots of hurt feelings, messy divorce & back to being single.
The end.

Well, ok I'll admit its not all like that, but it does seem an awful lot of people go down that route, why? Well probably because aside from taking their partner for granted a lot of folks just kind of give up on life. Websites like Ashley Madison exist because so many people out there are looking for something that they think they can't get from their chosen partner. My question is though, did they even ask?

Don't get me wrong some people get off on the thrill of an affair, its the danger element of being caught, perhaps, trouble is if you do get caught then it may well be game over. Even if you do stay together the trust has been broken & may take years to repair, assuming it can be repaired at all.
I'm willing to bet though that for the majority it's simply because they have given up on their marriage.

My point is that you have to work at keeping your marriage alive, if you truly love your partner then you must be prepared to put in & maintain some kind of effort. In short you have to constantly reinvent your relationship to keep it fresh.
Ok, so lecture over for now.

Since last Sunday evening with James "the new guy",  Alanna & I have spent the week canoodling like a pair of highly sexed teens. We have both been constantly horny & have fucked way more than we normally would. Many times I've glanced over & seen the Cheshire cat grin on her face & lustful look in her eyes. Our relationship is truly ALIVE & the main reason is because we have successfully transitioned from that societal norm to a more unconventional non monogamous relationship.

More to come in future blogs.

Mike.