Meet James, the new guy.

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And so it begins again.

Hopefully this is the first weekly blog post by either me, Mike, or Alanna chronicling our current & future adventures, so lets get started.

So we met a new guy last Sunday, he contacted us via email after spotting our profile online. We'll call him James for the purpose of this blog post. His email was really nicely written, articulate, well composed & concise. He thought he may be out of our age range but wanted to let us know he liked our profile and if we were ever looking for someone he'd like to meet us. He also gave us his cell phone number, again a good sign.

So many guys in the lifestyle are way too cagey to make their claimed marital status as "single" creditable. We have encountered numerous examples of this, sufficient to say the reputation of single men in the lifestyle is not good which makes it especially difficult for the few good ones to be taken seriously.
He gave us immediate access to his private pictures, just a couple of well taken, in focus head shots, good looking, nice smile, I could tell Alanna liked what she saw, yet another good sign. Also hallelujah! No grainy out of focus pictures of an erect penis, we do get that guy's are proud of their appendage and I'm no exception to that, but Alanna along with the majority of ladies who regularly sift through profiles probably get a little jaded after looking at the 100th cock that day. I guess a gynecologist feels the same way when his wife asks him to go down on her.

I emailed him and cut straight to the chase, yes we liked his profile and would like to meet him.
A quick response confirmed his willingness to do so the following day and presto! Looking really good now. Just indulge me for one more sentence or two here:

You have no idea how much time we have spent endlessly writing emails, attempting to set up a simple fucking meeting over coffee to see if we are compatable. Back and forth they go with no end in sight until we finally give up in frustration, this applies to couples as well, so single guys, you get to carry only part of the burden.
And yes, ok, I admit it, we have also been guilty of (very occasionally) stringing people along in the past, there I said it so don't call me a hypocrite, let's move on.

I sent him a text message confirming time and place, a local coffee and donut restaurant, he confirmed the arrangement, mentioned what vehicle he'd be driving and asked what we would like to drink! We were both impressed, pretty sure that was another uptick on Alanna's "I like him scale".

On the allotted day and time we pulled into the parking lot, nice sunny and warm day, there he was sitting in his car as promised. Introductions over we chatted for 30 - 45 minutes about his and our experiences within the lifestyle and also vanilla life in general. A vital key was confirmation that he is indeed single, actually divorced and has his own place, which may make things a lot easier in the upcoming weeks, we'll see.
The meeting went well, Alanna took the empty cups to dispose of them, we both watched her walk across the parking lot, yes she does have a great ass, and I'll never get tired of looking at it. Pretty sure James liked what he saw too ;)

We bade our farewell promising to be in touch soon, truth be told we had pretty much made up our minds that we would be seeing him in the future in a much more erotic setting.
I texted him shortly after we arrived home, he had already texted us as we travelled, thanking us for meeting him, complimenting Alanna and informing me how lucky I am to be with her. So far James is more than exceeding our hopes, we have become jaded with so many past disappointments so fingers crossed.

Alanna & I have had a lot of discussion over the past week, both of us are 100% committed in making this Alanna's first solo "Hotwife" experience. James and I have been texting back and forth through the week. I told him that I'd like to meet him for another coffee and to discuss boundaries, plus I had a proposal to make. He is very intrigued to find out what the proposal is, we are hoping he won't be scared off when I tell him. For all intents and purpose we will be setting up a nice threesome with him but our Hotwife itch needs to be scratched first.

Our preferred scenario is to set him up on a "date" with her, nothing too extravagant obviously but she needs to feel like she is desirable and worth bedding so he'll need to work a little. Assuming all is well, the payoff will be in getting his cock sucked and fucking her in every way consenting adults do, no real boundaries or limits except (for the time being) no vaginal penetration without protection. We will likely get to the bareback level later on when we all know each others STD history, boring but necessary.

What do I get out of it? Well that is a difficult question to answer and for ninety nine percent of the population impossible to explain. For that one percent though the payoff is well worth it.
 Your devoted partner fucking another man, or men with your full knowledge and consent is the most erotic feeling you will ever have in your life. She and he giving and getting mutual pleasure in a completely uncomplicated way, free from the constraints of a traditional marriage.
New experiences, new smells, new cock, new pussy, ass, breasts, new, new, new!
Listen, nothing can beat the sheer excitement of meeting and fucking someone new, yes of course you love your partner deeply but letting them have sex with someone else is a gift that most will never receive.
 So I get off knowing my favourite pornstar Alanna is fucking another guy's brains out, giving him pleasure and then coming home to me. Hard to understand I know, but once you make that leap and are able to separate the emotional and physical sides from the sex act you will be on your way. I guess one could think of it this way, when you love someone you make love to them, when it's with a stranger just for the recreational aspect you fuck them.

Mike.

The story of a fantasy that became a reality and other musings. (REDUX).

“She tastes like every dark thought I’ve ever had.”

Perspectives.

I decided to write this little blog post in order to chronicle the journey we embarked on starting a few years ago which opened a new & very exciting chapter in our sex life. It starts from the very beginning, well before we became a "lifestyle" couple. For the most part it is factual with just the names changed to protect the guilty. It's kind of long so I've broken it down into several separate chapters, hopefully it will be worth your time. By the way it's not intended as a "how to convince your wife to swing" guide for all you hopeful men out there but may give you some insight into what worked for us.

 My name is “Mike”, I have been very happily married to "Alanna", for over 20 years, we have a solid lifelong bond between us, or as she puts it “soul mates”. We met at a party way back in the late 80's & had an instant attraction to each other, maybe not love but certainly lust at first sight seems appropriate. We spent a lot of time together that evening making out and groping each other. Needless to say we quickly became a couple, I should mention despite that torrid first "date", she was a relatively shy 21 year old whose only previous sexual experience was decidedly plain vanilla. She'd had a couple of casual on, off boyfriends, the first of whom had taken advantage & her virginity while she was intoxicated, he was rough & it hurt. Not a great start & something she still regrets to this day. She had straight up sex with her next boyfriend a few times & then lost interest in him. Believe it or not she had never actually sucked a cock before we met. That first time honour went to me, she is a quick learner though & I never learned of her oral inexperience until quite a while later.

As for myself, I'd been in a couple of long term relationships, the first starting when I was 18 years old. For a girl the same age as me "Rose" was years ahead sexually, she taught me a lot & broke my heart 2 years later when she dumped me and started dating a female friend, (that's a whole different story). My second long term relationship went into the shitcan when I discovered she had cheated on me, bummer. On reflection it was probably Karma because somehow marriage was never at the forefront of my mind in both cases. Then of course I met Alanna & things changed for the better. From fairly early on in our relationship our sex life has always been what I'd consider to be above the average. We were really into each other and had sex frequently, very frequently actually. We got hitched & settled down, had a couple of kids & did the things most married couples with young children do, i.e, not much. But we always made a point of maintaining the spark in our marriage even through what Alanna calls the post children "frump years".

It seems to me that a lot of couples just like us get married, have kids & then kind of give up on life. You see them all the time, frumping around Wal-Mart, the glue (kids) holding them together having moved out of their daily lives.
Alanna & I made a conscious decision to not be like those couples, not for us is the notion in years time of sitting in an old folks home filled with regret because "we should have done it when we were able to". No, we decided to grab life by the horns & live.
Full disclosure: In those years (unknown to Alanna) I was already having fantasies about "swinging", I really have no recollection how or why I started thinking about it but it definitely appealed to me. No, it was nothing to do with any dissatisfaction with our marriage, I mean our sex life was awesome & she was (& still is) gorgeous. No, I think it's rooted in me subconsciously wanting to let her explore sexually due to the limited experiences she'd had prior to us meeting.
With this in mind & our own children pretty much grown up & independant I encouraged her to start to live the life of the very sexually appealing woman she actually was but never saw in herself.

So, in order to make progress & somewhat unsurprisingly you need to feel good about yourself, a big part of that starts with your self esteem. Perhaps those Wal-Mart folks decided walking around the store with their pajama pants on was making some kind of a fashion statement. Well, maybe for them it was, but not for us, so I took Alanna shopping for clothes. I think I have good taste & really enjoy picking out things that I know she will look good in. I bought her lingerie & classy but sexy outer clothes, she was a little hesitant at first but had to agree with me when she looked at herself in the dressing room mirrors. As she progressed through her 40's she became hotter & hotter with each passing year. Part of that was due to becoming more aware of how far she was above the average for women in her age range. This coupled with being nicely dressed had the desired effect of boosting her self confidence, something she had always lacked despite being really attractive.

The death of her Father was a serious blow to us both, Alanna stopped eating & consequently lost weight. She has never been a "heavy" woman & carried the little bit of extra padding accumulated through her "frump years" well. But her weight loss or as she referred to it "the final gift from my Dad" had the effect of further increasing her confidence levels. We took out a gym membership & both got into pretty good shape. When out in public I started to point out to her how desirable she was. I'd frequently see other guys checking her out, which was actually a boost to my own ego, knowing I had a wife they found attractive, It was something I reveled in pointing out to her. She was skeptical at first because like many Women who “just have it” she just didn't realize it. However, after making her aware it wasn't long before she started to notice for herself. Now, as a Woman in her late 40's she has that certain  "je ne sais quoi". She has reached the peak of her desirability, in fact with a little bit of makeup & some sexy clothes she is more of a head turner than she was when I originally fell for her all those years ago, she just exudes confidence & sex appeal. Alanna had (& still has) a few hang ups about her body, don't we all? But I love to show her off in public, in tight jeans & boots she is killer MILF material, I still get a huge boost to my ego watching other guys checking her out. Nowadays she is pretty comfortable with it but still has a little difficulty reconciling her desirability. However, she gets much more of a kick from the dirty looks she gets from other Women than the lascivious looks she gets from their partners. 

Fantasies.

So, in tandem with her newly found confidence and my natural inquisitiveness we started to experiment a little in our sex life. Over the course of a couple of years we experimented & progressed into sexual activities a lot of couples would at best consider dirty or kinky or simply would just consider perverted. I have a fond memory of the first time I ejaculated in her mouth, it wasn't planned, she randomly decided she was going to do it. Yes, she swallowed on that occasion & on the few occasions since, although she never much cared for the taste of semen. I remember telling her that I was not fond of beer when I first tried it but with perseverance I grew to like it. She remained unconvinced though. There is lots of other stuff that I won't go into the details of here but trust me, we had a lot of fun.
Along the way we also accumulated a variety of sex toys & watched porn, inevitably moving from the boring regular couples porn to the harder stuff. We made quite a few of our own movies too, it's pretty odd watching yourself have sex, but also very stimulating.

 Pretty much as a result of watching the harder porn movies along with a lifelong fascination with Women’s butts (I just love the shape) I developed a fantasy about having anal sex with her. There is just something so erotic & a little bit dirty about watching a penis sliding slowly into a Woman’s tight ass. In my (somewhat perverted) mind it is the ultimate tribute to want to fuck a Woman in the butt. But as a small digression from my own experience in terms of sensation once through the tight outer ring of muscle, vaginal & oral sex is streets ahead of anal. But oh boy, it's the act of actually pushing in, feeling the obvious tightness that is the real turn on. But once inside most of the sensations are in your head. Well, I guess the mental part is and should be the biggest percentage of the sex act, ok digression over.

Yes, this is us!

The problem however was she was not interested & while watching the on-screen action in a one woman with two or more guys scene she would tell me she'd never do anal, making comments like "an ass is an exit only" or something like that. However, I persisted with trying to realise my fantasy & very slowly over a period of many, many months maybe even years progressed from caressing & massaging her butt to the stage where she would let me perform analingus & play with her backdoor up to the point of slipping a finger inside her.

 One night a few years ago during a very torrid foreplay session while I was caressing & licking her gorgeous butt I was so turned on I just blurted out that I wanted to fuck it, to my surprise she told me that she had been thinking about it for quite a while. Something about the "actresses" in the porn films looking like they enjoyed it. So, my point here is that communication is always the key, you may both be having erotic fantasies, but if you don't share them with each other you may never know what really turns each other on & miss out on the opportunity. We didn't rush into it that night but discussed how it should go down over the next week. Needless to say the following weekend I got to turn my (our) fantasy into reality & have been fulfilling it on occasion ever since. But the memory & sheer thrill of the first time I eased my cock into her tight virgin hole remains strong today, the way first times for anything should.

So, moving on I need to add that I've been harbouring another fantasy for quite a few years now. Some of the porn films we watch feature black Guys with very large cocks fucking white females. I started fantasizing about one of these men fucking Alanna, I found the mental picture of watching her being penetrated & basically impaled on one of these huge dicks very erotic. Not really sure what makes interracial sex such a turn on, but maybe it's the very powerful contrast between the two skin colours, plus although pretty mainstream nowadays still has a bit of a taboo which adds to the whole appeal. However, sadly, she has not expressed any burning desire to be taken by a black lover except that is for the guy on "Criminal Minds". But the subject does come up in conversation between us fairly often & it's not an absolute "no". So for now at least that particular fantasy is on the back (or is it black) burner, but I live in hope that one day soon her curiosity will get the better of her & she'll change her mind.
Something I discovered in my quest to fuck her gorgeous ass is that a "no or maybe" now may well become a "yes" in the future.

Having become comfortable with anal sex we mimicked the porn movies by introducing double penetration into our lovemaking, my cock in her butt while she fucked herself with a dildo. It was something she clearly liked, I assumed at the time because it gave her that “filled up feeling”. As previously mentioned communication is always the key. So one evening we were indulging ourselves in a Saturday night romp, starting off with a porn movie. The chick was in a MFM threesome, being double penetrated, one guy in her pussy, the other in her ass. With no prompting Alanna turned to me & told me that she had a fantasy about "doing that", going on to explain that she would like to try having two real cocks inside her at the same time! She went on to further explain that in her fantasy I would be in her pussy while the other Guy fucked her in the ass. Her rational being she wanted to be able to see my reaction as I felt his cock sliding along the length of mine through the thin wall of flesh separating her anus & vagina as he penetrated her.

 The weird part is that despite my recurring fantasies of wanting to share her with another guy I was actually shocked, hearing it from her completely out of the blue & unprompted. Just another example perhaps of how to this day she still has the ability to surprise me. Even more weird was my initial knee jerk thought of not actually wanting to share her, despite several years of fantasizing to do just that! She asked me if I had ever thought about a threesome, so I hedged a little, not wanting at that point to reveal my black guy fucking her fantasy & said in a fairly lukewarm way, "well, maybe". Honestly at this point I really had no idea if I'd be able to follow through & turn the fantasy into reality. Thinking about doing something especially something like that is a long way from actually doing it. Anyway to continue with the conversation she said "probably with another Woman, right"? It gave me the opportunity to cop out & I replied "yes".

Do I actually want to watch her making out with another lady? Duh! Absofuckinglutely I do. To my mind back then, seeing her with another Woman was a much easier pill to swallow than seeing her with another Man. She told me at that point she didn't think she could handle being with another female, so shortly afterwards the subject was changed & we made love then went to sleep. Of course to this day I still harbor the fantasy of her getting it on with another woman, what guy doesn't?
My fantasy is for her to be seduced by an experienced bi lady, in the fantasy she is naturally hesitant & even a little resistant but eventually surrenders herself to the moment.
Ah, another fantasy that may yet one day happen, as I mentioned a couple of times already "no" or "maybe" could well be a "yes" later. Nevertheless that fantasy sits alongside my black guy on the back burner, for now...

Anyhow, after Alanna revealed her MFM threesome fantasy I put a great deal of thought into what she said. I went through the very normal insecurities of actually seeing her with someone else, I mean a fantasy is one thing, but the possibility of it actually happening paints a whole different picture. For instance what if she preferred the other guy to me & then started an affair? That would be difficult to handle. It is one thing to do things together with full knowledge, but quite another if secrecy is involved.

The whole idea consumed my thoughts, I analyzed it and re-analyzed, It focused me into believing it could actually happen, for real. Like I said, for years I’d harbored the fantasy of seeing her fucking & sucking another cock, for me it is an extremely potent image to watch your Wife giving someone else pleasure & getting pleasure in return. We discussed it endlessly, both of us expressing our concerns along with the possible consequences to our relationship. It took me a while to reconcile what we had discussed, but rationalized that she was not using this as a means of "cheating with permission", just sex uncomplicated by emotional involvement.
I was actually really impressed because she apparently had been able to separate love from what is essentially, recreational sex, something all couples who enter the "lifestyle" successfully are able to do. My initial knee jerk reaction dissolved as I realized that the sheer strength of the bond we have in our marriage is what would hold us together regardless.

Oops digression alert!
Thinking way back before Alanna entered my life I used to be the possessive & jealous type when it came to my girlfriends, this no doubt being a big contributor to those failed relationships. When I met Alanna I was mature enough to be able to push that irrational stuff out of my head. She has never given me a reason to feel even the slightest twinge of jealousy in all these years, well, maybe a teeny weenie little bit, which we'll get to later.

Damn, I have to quit sidetracking myself, anyway I rationalized finally, that the whole fantasy was based purely on the curiosity of broadening sexual horizons, love & affection did not enter the picture, in her words the other guy would be a "human dildo".

I did a lot of research & reading on the Internet which certainly helped to further fuel the fantasy. I read accounts from Women who said that being double penetrated by two Guys is one of the most incredible sexual experiences a Woman can ever have. As a result of the “research” plus my own rationalization of the whole thing made the reality of actually watching her being fucked by another Guy a huge turn on. I had a recurring mental picture of her kneeling naked between my legs sucking my cock, legs splayed out with all of her inhibitions abandoned as she gave herself up to the other Guy who is driving his cock into her from behind. Just thinking about it made my cock jump to attention. It was like being back in my teens when the slightest thought of sleeping with a girl, any girl, would give me a boner. It was kind of embarrassing at work when I got a hard on while fantasizing about seeing her sucking on another Man's cock, anyway I'm digressing once again.

As I mentioned above my research led me to a couple of online adult message & picture forums. I was so horny one Saturday afternoon that I posted a couple of pics of her ass on one of the sites to test people's reactions, they were all positive, she wasn't overjoyed when I told her, but relaxed a bit when I said the pictures couldn't be identified as her. As a result of the post I got a lot of messages from Guys, many of which contained nude pictures of themselves, offering to fuck her. I shared the messages with her & it became obvious she was excited that other Men did indeed find her desirable enough to sleep with.

So back to the story, One night we were in the initial stages of having sex, she was caressing my cock & asked me what my fantasy was, & what would turn me on. At this point it was a no brainer to me so I told her I wanted to watch her sucking another Mans cock, from her reaction, I knew I'd hit the jackpot. By now I was rock hard & she headed south. While she was sucking me I started to talk dirty to her, saying things like "Imagine that’s another mans cock you're sucking & I'm behind you licking your ass". She started making muffled moans & I could tell she was seriously turned on. She then slid up my body & started to ride me, I told her to imagine me fucking her pussy while another guy was behind her working his cock into her ass. She was moaning pretty loudly at this point & was dripping wet, more turned on than I'd seen her in a long time. She climbed off & I went down on her, as I ran my tongue up her slit I said “imagine you are sucking a nice big cock right now while I’m tonguing you, you want that don’t you”? Her increasingly urgent moans told me that yes indeed she did. We both came quickly & very hard that night, her orgasm much more intense than usual.

Afterwards during our pillow talk, she expressed some concerns about actually doing a threesome for real, mainly relating to not wanting to wreck our marriage. I told her that as long as we kept communicating I was 100 percent confident that it would not, providing we established ground rules & stuck to them. Like I said above, it really all comes down to trust, & we have that in spades, therefore making it a non issue. We went to sleep that night confidant of our shared ability to keep pushing our personal boundaries.

She also expressed some interest in doing some web chat (cyber sex) together; I remember how she somewhat sheepishly told me about it one Saturday afternoon. She wanted to go into an online chat room, find a guy or maybe a married couple & exchange mutual fantasies. I remember not being particularly enamoured with the idea, it just did not seem to have that much appeal. However I have come to realise that in a lot of ways she is well ahead of me & now consider it to be a great idea. We have not yet followed through but once more, there is always time in the future..

Reality vs Fantasy.

So, now with both of us being 100 percent on the same page I started in earnest looking for a suitable partner to join us in a threesome. It sounded very easy in principle, but in practice proved to be very frustrating. Many times we thought we'd struck gold only to be disappointed by the very high percentage of fakes who inhabit adult lifestyle websites.

Eventually we were contacted by a guy, "David", who like all the others seemed genuine, we exchanged emails & chatted via instant messenger. Then the miracle finally occurred & we arranged a time & place to get together for a drink in order to see if we had a connection. He told me before the meeting he was confidant Alanna would find him attractive, he was right, she did, I could tell within moments of her laying eyes on him. He was apparently single, in his mid 30's & experienced being a "3rd" with couples like us. We mutually confirmed during that first meet & greet that we would be progressing further. Naturally we were both very excited, but a little scared also, it had taken quite a while to get there but finally we were on the cusp of throwing caution to the wind & taking that first leap of faith into extra marital sex.

Over the next little while we discussed & agreed our individual & shared boundaries, in other words things we were prepared to do, along with things we would not do. Amongst them were the obvious things like safe sex, condom use for all vaginal penetration. Alanna also insisted on condom use for oral sex, I didn't want that but she was concerned about taking a strangers bare penis in her mouth. I wouldn't allow anal sex, unless I got first dibbs, in hindsight irrational given that a DP was on our bucket list! So more than likely purely due to male possessiveness at the time, strange but true. We both however had complete agreement on a no kissing (mouth to mouth) rule, oddly we both thought it was too intimate! Times change & nowadays our rules for all of the above have been broken, but I digress.

A few weeks later after what seemed like an eternity we were finally able to make a firm arrangement to get together one evening at a local hotel. With the excitement (& anxiety) mounting we packed a suitcase with sexy lingerie, shoes, toys & lubes & set off on our first MFM adventure. Once checked in & settled in our room we waited, our anxiety mounting, his agreed arrival time came & went, I kept looking at my watch & checking for messages on my laptop. I'd previously sent him an instant message giving him the room number but did not hear back. An hour passed by, fuck! He was going to be a no show, disappointment crept in big time for both of us.

Then there was a quiet knock on the door, I checked through the security spy hole, it was him! We quickly sprang into action, Alanna stood in the middle of the room, trying but failing to not look nervous. What she did look was stunning though, dressed in lingerie, stockings & heels, covered by a short silk gown.

I opened the door, his eyes going immediately to Alanna, yes, she really did look amazing, our fantasy was about to be finally realized. He apologized for being late, something about rush hour traffic, I don't think either of us were really listening, our thoughts were focused on what lay ahead. With the greetings out of the way I told him that I was going to sit in the easy chair in the corner & watch them for a while before joining in. My cock was as hard as iron which was a relief because I'd convinced myself that getting hard in this kind of a situation would possibly be difficult. I'd read many accounts of men suffering from "performance anxiety" & was glad that I did not appear to be one of them.

They hugged briefly & he moved behind her, kissing her neck, hands sliding up her body, fondling her. My heart was thudding out of my chest, I didn't feel the slightest bit of jealousy, just pure sexual lust. Here was my wife of well over 20 years of marriage about to be taken by another man with me sat in the only front row seat. He untied the belt & slipped the robe off her shoulders, allowing it to fall to the floor. Stroking her body with his fingers, then undoing her bra, slipping it off, squeezing her breasts, rolling her firm nipples between his thumbs & forefingers, still kissing her neck. Her eyes were closed & she just relaxed & melted into him, allowing the sensations of being caressed by this stranger to flow through her body.

I watched breathlessly as she reached around to fondle his cock through his pants, yet another "oh my god" moment. David still kissing her neck had one hand occupied fondling a bare breast he slipped his other hand under the waistband of her thong, teasing her (no doubt) wet pussy, she was moaning softly, I thought I'd died & gone to heaven, it truly was beyond erotic & to this day remains one of the most vivid images in my memory. Without taking my eyes off them I removed my pants & dressed only in boxers went to join them, two pairs of hands now caressing her body. I fondled her breasts, David focussed on her sweet pussy & ass, she was breathing rapidly, clearly well into the moment.

We manoeuvred her to the bed, where he gently laid her down, she lifted her ass as he pulled the thong off her thighs. I watched enthralled as he went down on her licking & sucking her tight little pussy. She arched her back as he contacted her clitoris, she was moaning loudly now, loving the sensations being delivered by this strangers tongue. Within a few minutes she gasped & reached a climax, I was stroking my cock & almost came as well. Later on after he'd left she told me that she had not actually climaxed but had faked it, which was a slight disappointment. Nevertheless at that moment in time it was incredible to watch another guy bring her to apparent orgasm, faked or not.

David, a little smugly remarked that he'd been waiting to "get that out of the way" as he climbed to his feet. Alanna lay there for a few moments, catching her breath before taking a quick drink. She sat on the side of the bed as she drank. I stepped back & watched as David moved in close to her, his motive obvious. Alanna needing no prompting unbuckled his belt, undid the button and unzipped his fly. I watched, heart hammering as she pulled his boxers over his solid erection. I'd never been up close & personal with another guy's erect cock before, but did not feel at all homophobic about it. she reached to the bedside cabinet & removed a un-lubricated condom from its wrapper. She rolled it onto his thick (certainly thicker than me) shaft, he was not huge in the length department which was very slightly disappointing. One of my major fantasies is to watch her having sex with a hung guy, just curiosity on my part to see what effect it has on her libido & how she handles it. Also how she reacts when penetrated really deeply, not that I want to see her in pain or anything. Nevertheless the desire to see her taking a long thick cock remains strong in my twisted mind.

Where was I? Oh, yes, with the condom rolled onto his cock, the next part of the fantasy was fulfilled as she took him into her soft mouth. Watching her suck another guy's cock was everything I thought it would be. I knew what he was feeling, she is a true cock sucking expert, what she can do with her mouth would have any un-cut & unsheathed man climaxing very quickly. After several minutes of pleasuring him she took a quick break for another drink. Apparently sucking an un-lubricated condom makes your throat really dry.

She slid off the bed onto her knees, David thoughtfully giving her a pillow to kneel on. Then looking right at me she took him back into her mouth. It remains another of the most potent visual memories & experiences of my life. The lust I saw in her eyes as she sucked his cock halfway down her throat was beyond all expectations, I just sat there transfixed as my new favorite pornstar worked on the thick shaft.

Several minutes later he brought her to her feet, once more guiding her to the bed. She lay on her back, head propped up on pillows as he climbed between her open legs. I got up from my seat wanting to share & witness the moment when she took a cock other than mine in her pussy for the first time in nearly 25 years. He ran his shaft up and down her slit, her juices coating the condom, teasing her, she was breathing hard & moaning softly as he did so. Then holding the shaft he positioned the head of his cock at her entrance & slowly pushed inside, the moist labia yielding to the pressure. With a gasp she threw her head back into the pillows as he entered, stretching her wider than she was used to. My fantasy was pretty much fulfilled at that point, I looked at the large head of his cock just inside her pussy, holding her open barely daring to breath, yet another thrilling & amazing sight. She caught her breath & beckoned for him to slip deeper inside, I watched in absolute fascination as the whole length of his shaft disappeared into her body. He held it there for a few moments before establishing a slow rhythm, fucking her balls deep. She grunted a little each time he drove his cock into her, her knees wide, legs up & her hands gripping his ass pulling him into her, truly incredible.

I walked to the foot of the bed to watch for a few moments, watching his dick appear then disappear back inside her pussy, lips wrapped around his latex clad shaft which was slick with her juices, it was almost surreal.

Now fully naked I walked back to the headboard end, got onto the bed & knelt beside her, This was the moment to fulfill one of her fantasies, one cock in her mouth, one in her pussy. She turned her head & greedily sucked me between her lips, it was beyond erotic, David fucking her while she sucked noisily on my cock.

We switched positions, me sitting propped up by the headboard, Alanna on her knees, ass high in the air, my cock once again in her mouth, David kneeling behind her fucking her "Doggy style". Once again a truly incredible & erotic sight to witness & another of my fantasies fulfilled.

David groaned as he came, unable to hold back any longer, no doubt his orgasm spurred on by the sight of her slim waist & onion booty, he pulled out, the condom filled with his cum hanging limply from his still hard cock. Alanna rolled over onto her back, I moved between her legs & tongued the pussy that bare seconds before had been filled & stretched by a strange cock.

I knew I would not last long I was so horny, so within a few strokes of slipping my cock into her I came hard, temporarily spent.

We all cleaned ourselves up & still naked sat around with a beverage chatting about life in general, it seemed pretty bizarre & so matter of fact, kind of funny really.

David was like the Energizer Bunny, he was ready to go again within 10 minutes, so I sat down in the easy chair and watched them play, both obviously enjoying themselves immensely. I could tell that Alanna had fully relaxed & was just enjoying the experience & touch of a new lover. Seeing her happy made me feel happy, any anxieties I had were gone, I felt no jealousy, just love for her. It may sound kind of mushy but that is how it was.

 After I regained my erection I joined them & we played for maybe another hour taking it in turns to fuck her, switching ends & trying several different positions. David came again at least a couple of times, jeez, he was a fucking machine!

Then the evening was over, we were both tired but charged with the kind of excitement & sexual energy you only really get the first few times with a new partner. We bade our goodbyes to David with the promise that we would arrange a repeat performance at a later date.

Alone in the room, we hugged & kissed as people in love with each other do, then we made love, our way of re-establishing our connection to each other.
As a footnote, we never did try to DP her, I really don't know why, in hindsight it was maybe a slight disappointment but the overall vibe of that torrid first evening was so positive it really didn't matter.

We saw David a couple more times over the next 12 months or so, the second time even better than the first. Not because of the excitement levels which were still off the charts but because we were both far more relaxed & less anxious. We all laughed and fooled around a lot during that session but it was no less erotic than the first time.
On our third & what was to be our final get together she did suck his cock bareback, which was amazing. We filmed that session & as I said earlier watching yourselves having sex is a little weird, watching yourselves having a threesome is surreal. Somehow we still didn't get around to doing the DP but one day soon I'm positive it will happen & when it does it will be an amazing shared experience for us both.

Conclusion.

To those of you who have read this far and are presumably contemplating venturing down the same path as us I have this to say: There is nothing in your life that will ever come close to the feeling you get when sharing your wife with someone else. My years of hopes, fantasies & dreams were finally realized. So be nice to your wife, treat her with the respect she deserves, pamper her like the Goddess she is and most importantly, stay well connected in your relationship &  maybe, just maybe you'll be able to live out your own fantasies in glorious living technicolor just as we have.

So that pretty much concludes how Alanna & I after a few false starts, a ton of frustration & an awful lot of communication started out (& survived!) our first foray into the very secretive & exciting world of wife sharing, we hope it was worth your time to read it. We certainly don't consider ourselves to be a hard core lifestyle couple, far from it, but we do treat the whole thing as an extension to our already active sex life. So, if like us you have a very solid relationship with your better half & are looking to spice things up a little further then perhaps you may also contemplate embarking on your own journey of self discovery. Be warned though, it can become addictive, and trust me your libido's will go through the roof along with your sex life! Finally, something well worth mentioning as hinted on a few sentences ago is to be prepared for some disappointments. A very large percentage of those profiles on swinger websites are either fake or have been put there by people who are simply flakes. We have been let down & out of pocket many times so be warned, do your homework & develop a system to weed out the fakes & flakes. We eventually clued in and became more discerning. After initial contact & some correspondence our system is to ask our prospect for a meet & greet within the next few days, if communication suddenly stops or becomes evasive then: DANGER WILL ROBINSON, FAKE OR FLAKE ALERT! Take our advice & don't waste any more of your valuable time, just shrug & move on.


How We Got into "Hotwifing".

We always made a very conscious choice to steer well away from married guys, not wanting to be held responsible for the possibility of wrecking someone’s marriage. But ironically Alanna stumbled into a friendship with a new co-worker at the store where she works. He was married but shortly after meeting for the first time he started hitting on her & came on pretty strongly. She was flattered & responded by leading him on, testing him, they flirted, a little at first, then a lot. She made sure to tell me, & I actually found it to be pretty amusing but cautioned her to be careful, particularly because he was married & also of course due to potential complications with harassment & other repercussions at work.

It quickly got to the stage where they added each other as friends on Facebook & started swapping very suggestive personal messages. Alanna was very open about it, showing me the message threads, it left no doubt in my mind that he fantasized about fucking her.
Did it make me jealous? Actually yes, a little, but I don't really know why. She had never given me any reason to doubt her & I trust her 100 percent, nevertheless it gave me a slight feeling of unease. Maybe because I thought it could spiral out of control, either way it was the first time I'd felt that way in decades.
However, the really fucked up thing was the thought of her actually being in a one on one sexual encounter with him with my full knowledge made it really hot. Neither of us realised it at the time but our adventure was about to take a new course.

It was very obvious that she was having fantasies about it also, it was really easy to tell because her libido went through the roof & we were frequently going at it like a pair of teenagers. Alanna really got off on the undeniable fact that she had this power over him due in part to the confidence she'd gained since we embarked on our new life. She freely admitted to me that she didn't find him particularly attractive or even want to be with him sexually especially without the knowledge & consent of his wife. But actually knowing he was having his own fantasies to fuck her really got her off. I think we used to call that cock teasing back in the day. That conversation went a very long way to alleviating the unease I was feeling. Remember, communication is always the key to keep your relationship & marriage intact!

More comfortable now but perhaps living a little dangerously I played into her fantasy during our own lovemaking by openly suggesting she fuck him, always with the same results, her horniness going off the charts. We talked and fantasized about it a lot, she came up with all kinds of scenarios including him joining us in a threesome or maybe see if he could persuade his Wife to come over to the dark side & join us in a foursome swap, which would defiantly have been hot.
His other half was a fairly attractive “bigger” woman, I joked to Alanna that I'd be taking one for the team, but the thought of fucking his wife while he fucked mine was and to this day is still a huge turn on for me. I think another digression is about to happen:

From fairly early on we discussed our logical path which from single men would eventually lead us into swinging with another couple. Just to add to the dynamic Alanna had (by her own admission) a little anxiety regarding me being with another female, the same kind of anxiety I had prior to finally conquering my own fears while I was contemplating the possibility of sharing her with another man.
So at the expense of keeping on repeating myself we made sure to discuss it a lot, I really cannot over emphasize how critical it is to communicate honestly & openly with each other.
I told her that I'd love the first time for all four of us to be in the same room, she was not comfortable with that, her preference was to be in separate rooms, certainly to start with. Of course I was fine with that, not what I would have liked but no biggie.
So why am I telling you this? Well, some people screw up by being selfish & losing sight of the common goal of recreational sex, which of course is to have guilt free playtime with someone other than your regular partner. So be prepared to compromise because without it you have stalemate, & stalemate equals game over. Just remember it's always the women who are in control and call the shots in the lifestyle. Fortunately Alanna & I have the same common goals just slightly different ideas on how to achieve them. The important thing of course is that we are getting there together at our own pace.

As a result of those discussions she became ready to take that next step providing we could take our time in order to meet the right couple. We have gotten as far as contacting & meeting with a few fellow travelers but didn't really establish a good enough connection with them to progress beyond a couple of drinks. We were also not prepared for the frustration involved, finding, meeting & making a connection with single guys is much tougher than it sounds, throw another person into the mix and, yikes!

Now, where was I? Oh, yes, the co-worker, I don't know why but the potential of her going on a solo “date” with him or any other guy with my knowledge & consent began to dominate my thoughts. A little bit of research showed me that it is becoming quite a common thing amongst the lifestyle community although it inherently carries more risk in a couple’s relationship. After all, the swingers mantra is “the couple that plays together, stays together”. Logically therefore, only the most secure, committed & loving couples can indulge themselves in the very exciting “Hotwifing” side of the lifestyle.

So, yes, yet another fantasy was born, the thought of Alanna meeting up with some random guy at a motel & returning home late that night, her pussy filled with his cum excited me greatly. We discussed it at great length, she asked me how far I'd be prepared to let her go with him if (in the extremely unlikely event) his wife was also into it & I told her exactly what was on my mind including her being alone with him, kissing him, sucking his cock & allowing him to fuck her bareback. The only provisos being that it was a one off & she had to tell me every intimate detail when she got home.

She was a little shocked that I'd be prepared to allow her to go that far, but really the fact that I love & trust her more than I've ever trusted anyone is what made it possible. It’s all to do with the removal of the emotional aspect of having sex & just focusing on the thrill & recreational aspect, remember?
Predictably & very unsurprisingly this fantasy was not to be, his wife was not impressed when she saw some of the messages he'd sent, what a Doofus. Thankfully it didn't cause a serious rift between them but he wisely backed off & cooled his heels substantially. Shortly after he transferred to another location which with hindsight was a good thing.
The moral of this story is make sure that all parties are actually involved, this is not a good example but there are plenty of "single" men out there playing away from home without their other half's knowledge. With hindsight that may have been the case with David, but we were never able to substantiate it.

What's New?

Well, as you can read elsewhere in this blog (*1) we continue to pursue our extra marital activities. We found a great mature local guy & have enjoyed a few very torrid times with him. He was also Alanna's very first solo date. I'll never forget that first evening, it was beyond incredible. By far the very pinnacle of anything we have done to date. Nevertheless, we are renewing our quest to connect with couples in tandem with continuing to seek out additional single guys, where we end up is entirely up to us. What I do know is that it will be a shared journey taken together by a committed couple in a strong & unbreakable marriage.

Mike.

(*1). You can read the torrid details of Alanna's first solo hotwife date by clicking the link below.

Click HERE to read how it went: