Cuckolding: What It Means To Me.

My Perspective.

So, the word "Cuckold" is not a word that a lot of us husbands of Hotwives want to be associated with, let alone actually be labelled as being one.
If you are reading this you are likely already very familiar with the term Cuckolding, having reached this page from a Google search for "Hotwife", or perhaps through one of the Forums ("Our Hotwives", maybe) that we frequent.
Nevertheless, it's worth confirming the definition of what a Cuckold actually is.

From the Collins English Dictionary:
"A man whose spouse has committed adultery, often regarded as an object of scorn".

Or the Oxford English Dictionary:
"A man whose wife is sexually unfaithful, often regarded as an object of derision".
"Make another man a cuckold by having a sexual relationship with his wife".

Or the Urban Dictionary:
"A sexually inadequate husband who accepts his wife's pussy is her sole property and she alone decides which men she will fuck,even if it means denying her husband. His only access to her pussy is to clean it of the ejaculate of males she chooses to fuck".

"A man who finds it arousing to watch his girlfriend or wife having sex with another man".

"A man who gains sexual pleasure in the knowledge that his wife has made love or is making love to other men. Cuckolds are usually submissive, often have a small penis, suffer from premature ejaculation, 'enjoy' sexual humiliation and are rarely able to satisfy their wives".

"A man who willingly encourages his wife to sleep with other people because it brings him pleasure. Cuckolds exist on a spectrum between two extremes. One on end is the masochistic cuckold who enjoys humiliations, degradation, and other demeaning activities at the hands of his wife and her lover. The alpha cuckold lies at the opposite end of the spectrum and does not enjoy any form of humiliation and often has a direct say in who his wife sleeps with and when".

As you can see the urban dictionary has several different takes on the two "official" dictionary meanings, the ones I quoted are just four of many.
My point being like most words in the english language "Cuckold" has, and is still evolving to take on new meanings, or at least different levels of meaning.

In terms of Hotwifing, yes, us husbands are Cuckold because our wives are being fucked by other men. However, the waters are muddy and continue to stay muddied because there are so many opinions on what a Cuckold actually is.

To recap:
If your Wife is being fucked by someone else whether you are aware of it or not, you are by definition a Cuckold, or in short form "Cuck".

My opinion on why some of us HW husbands are not keen to be given the label is because of the widely accepted connection to being submissive to, or humiliated by our Wives, and or dominated and humiliated by their lovers.

Of course there exists many different levels of kink within the community, there are for sure men who are willingly submissive, wear cock cages, are denied sex, etc. And actually get off  by being humiliated by their wives and lovers.
This is the dominant, (pun intended) view of Cuckolding, and actually goes way beyond the straightforward dictionary definition, but hold on a minute..

There are those like me who are not in any way submissive, particularly to the Wife's lover, but willingly share them for the mutual benefit of sexual pleasure and broadening sexual horizons.
This, more recently (I think) has become to be known as a Stag / Vixen relationship whereby the married male willingly shares his wife with another male, often referred to as a "Bull".

Actually, to digress, I loathe the term "Bull:" when applied to anything other than the farmyard animal. Yeah, I get it, a Bull is used for the sole purpose of fucking, or "breeding", but in my mind de-humanizes her lover along with the whole sharing experience.
But then again, I know there are men who love to use the term and get off at the thought or their wives "being bred".
And yes, in this context I also see the irony of referring to the guys who fuck my wife as her "lover", but it is at least, more accurate, IMHO.

Now, where was I?
Yeah, it took me a long time to accept that I am in fact a cuckold, mainly because the term as generally defined and popular belief implies submissiveness, inadequacy, under-endowment, etc, etc.

I don't believe that any of those things apply to me, I share Alanna simply for the sheer pleasure of doing so, if I told her we were no longer going to indulge in Hotwifing she would shrug and say "ok", (not that I have any intention of doing so, lol).

So what was the point of this post? Well, like I said, I struggled for a long time to come to terms with
the whole notion that I was actually being cuckolded, willingly or not. But nowadays I'm much more relaxed about the whole thing, it's just a word, or perhaps a label that has many different levels of meaning.

As for my personal standing as a Cuck my preferences are a mashup:

Yes, my wife fucks other men with my knowledge and blessing.

No, I'm not subservient to her or to them.

Does she get fucked better by her lovers than me?
Quite likely, yes, do I feel humiliated? Nope. As long as she had a great time, I'm good with that.

Would I eat her lovers creampie?
Yes I would, it's high on my fantasy list along with being underneath her eating her while she's being fucked.
Does that make me gay or bi?
I doubt it, but I really have no idea, and furthermore don't care, if it feels good then do it.

So in conclusion, I'm very comfortable and confidant in my own skin, call me what you like, after all, I'm the one who gets to share the unbelievably erotic times with Alanna when she fucks other men.

Mike.
August 13th 2017.

Why Do I Love To Watch My Wife Fuck Other Men?

Interesting question.

This post is an attempt to build on a previous post from earlier this year.
As I said then the short answer is that it's really hot, but I'll attempt to explain further, and what I lack in wordsmithing ability I'll use a sequence of Gif's I made from my all time favorite Hotwifing movie " I love my Hotwife," (New Sensations) starring Ava Dalush. Because, you know, a picture paints a thousand words and this particular highly erotic movie is so well acted / shot it should be on top of your list as well. If you are not yet able to get your S.O. into hotwifing or any extra marital sexual activity get hold of a copy of this movie and watch it with her. You never know, it may just help to change her mind.
Click the pictures to expand them and enjoy, the sequence pretty much sums all the following words up.
Ok, I digressed again, a bad habit of mine I know. So where to begin?

It's the ultimate voyeurism experience.
If like me you like porn movies then you are already at least halfway to understanding why watching your wife have sex with someone else would be hot. Watching porn is simple voyeurism, substitute the actress on screen with your Wife and imagine that is her taking that cock.
So, literally, for me, Alanna is my all time favourite pornstar, she just happens to also be my wife.

It's exciting for her, (and me!).
So, do your best to remember the first time you had sex with your wife, way before you got married. Remember how hot it was? How you fucked like rabbits at every available opportunity?
So now, many years later you are still having great sex, (but likely less of it). It's certainly not boring because over the years you have tried quite a few new things, even kinky stuff to keep it fresh and exciting, right? But, no matter how hard you try you cannot re-capture that original level of excitement.

Now imagine your wife starting over with someone new.
The undeniable sexual tension as they kiss, hands exploring each others bodies, releasing her breasts from her bra, squeezing them as he licks and sucks on the firm nipples.
His hand slips under the waistband of her damp panties, she's moaning softly, then cries out with the sudden electric jolt as he strokes her clitoris. She's already way past the point of no return, fully committed, she has to have him, no turning back now.
She is wondering how big he is and how good he's going to be in the sack, fumbling with his belt with trembling hands, prior to unzipping and releasing his hard cock. Then quickly taking him into her willing mouth, gagging a little as she deepthroats him, wanting to impress with her cock sucking skills.

Then, breasts heaving because she is breathing so hard in anticipation, her new lover penetrates her for the first time, it feels different but so good, and yes, he's super excited too and after a gentle start is fucking her brains out with deep, powerful thrusts. He skillfully makes her cum in multiple positions for the next two hours, something you have not done with her for years. He may be a little rough with her, slapping her ass and slipping his thumb into it, then pulling her head back by her hair as he plows her pussy doggy style. Sure, you have done some of those things as well, but you always held back a little not wanting to hurt her or get cussed out.
But he is not playing the game by the same rules. She is probably loving it and may allow him to do things to her she has never allowed you to do because in that moment her libido is firmly in charge and anything goes.
Even after he leaves despite being sore and tired she's still fully alive, every nerve ending tingling with excitement as she willingly engages with you for reclaim sex.
Yes, sex with a new partner, there is simply no substitute.


It had a positive impact on our marriage.
Selling your Wife on the benefits of sharing her with others is potentially a very tough thing to do because all conventional wisdom would have you believe that introducing a third party inside the sanctimony of your marriage can only lead to disaster, right?
Well yes, of course it can lead to disaster, but if you already have a rock solid relationship with your partner then there really is much less to be concerned about.
Alanna is not interested in forming a relationship with a third party along with the corresponding emotional baggage and complexity. No, she just loves the freedom to experience the excitement of pure sex just for the hell of it. Because of our close connection, that excitement is directly transferred to me to share with her on an emotional level.
Sounds complicated? Not really, even though she downplays it a little it is easy to tell just how much she enjoys it, tough to hide the spontaneous smiles and body language along with the incredibly powerful orgasms.
The short answer is it clearly makes her happy and therefore makes me happy too.

It's taboo.
A big part of the thrill is sharing a secret lifestyle, our vanilla friends would likely be horrified if they ever found out I share Alanna with other guys. But I'm also guessing some of them would also be envious despite the feigned horror.
I still get a laugh when I think back a month or so when James came to visit our home.
To our neighbours we just had a friend over for a couple of hours. They would never in their wildest imagination guess that Alanna took him upstairs to our bedroom. And while I watched, he brought her to three body shaking climaxes followed by the hardest fucking she's ever had in our bed.

So in conclusion, I think the above words combined with the Gifs adequately convey why I love to watch my wife play with other men. I have said it many times throughout this blog it is easily the most erotic and sexually fulfilling thing you will ever experience in your life.

What are you waiting for?

Mike.
July 19th 2017

Finally! Alanna Taken By James in Our Own Bedroom.

It has been Quite a While.

Since Alanna got together with James that is, if you have been following our blog then you will already know that being in the lifestyle can be a frustrating experience but stay with it and it can also be very exciting for all concerned.

So with that said, now would be a good time to say that no, the reality of the evening did not fully match my fantasy, but then they rarely do, however if you can get halfway there it is so much more rewarding than nothing at all, agreed?

The first change was brought up by Alanna, she wanted to start the evening off in our hot tub, not too long maybe just a 20 minute soak was what she wanted. I was hoping they would start off by getting down and dirty on the sofa in our lounge but hey! I'm a go with the flow kind of guy.
Just to digress for a moment: I of course love Alanna, one of her most endearing traits is her bluntness. Just prior to James arriving at our home she told me she didn't want to do "anything too heavy" in the hot tub. I asked her what she meant. "Only blowjobs, no penetration because the neighbours will hear us". I just had to laugh at her, as if blowing either me or James in our hot tub in broad daylight does not qualify as "anything too heavy", too funny.

Ok, so here is a breakdown of how the evening went:

We spent the first hour or so in the hot tub, not exactly the quick 20 minute dip Alanna had intended but we chatted, probably a little too much actually. However, because neither of us had seen James for quite a while,and the fact that we have all experienced life changing events in the months since we had a lot of catching up to do.
 I'd got all the cameras running upstairs and was getting concerned about if they would run out of memory space so was getting a little antsy maybe.

By this time Alanna had moved in to sit on his lap, it's always very arousing to watch him pinching her nipples and caressing her body. This continued for a while until Alanna said: "let's move this indoors". We didn't get to the blowjob stage, no biggie though, I was anxious to move things along.

Once in the house she asked him to come upstairs with her which was really exciting to me. He readily complied. I told them that I'd be up shortly but not wait for me. I have to admit I was super nervous and kept pacing around the lounge, my mind racing. I could hear them chatting and laughing, then it went quiet. At this point I couldn't hold back any longer, so with my phone set to camera mode I very quietly made my way upstairs.

Yes! Alanna had left the door open maybe a half inch, heart thudding I peeked through the gap.

He was flat on his back, head on my pillow, she was on her side, her back to me, head bobbing up and down as she sucked his cock. She was making muffled moaning noises while he groaned his appreciation of her oral skills. later examination of the video showed it took her just over one minute from arriving in the bedroom to taking him in her mouth.

I pushed the door open maybe 2 inches, neither of them saw me as I took several pictures through the gap. The first glimpse of my wife and another guy naked in our bedroom was everything I hoped it would be, so erotic. Several minutes of sucking later she broke for air, James complimented her on her skills, then flipped her onto her back. They kissed for several seconds then he made his way down to her pussy.

I took more pictures through the partially open door, they are so voyeuristic in nature, just secretly watching my hotwife and her lover on our bed engaged in carefree sex is a truly unforgettable and highly erotic experience.

He put his considerable oral skills to use, her breathing rapid, moans becoming more urgent as she squirmed against his mouth. However, she was having difficulty reaching a climax so he grabbed her favourite bullet vibe which I'd thoughtfully left on the bedside table along with condoms and lube, then went back to work.

By this time I'd pushed the door open wide enough to step into the room, Alanna saw me and smiled, a dreamy radiant sort of smile. We are so comfortable in these situations nowadays, the sexual tension was high and she was fast approaching her first orgasm.

Then the familiar arching of her back, the moans now loud as she peaked, both James and I stared in wonderment as she writhed around, her body convulsing in huge spasms that are impossible to fake. I have said it many times I love to watch her cum, even more so when it's in the hands of another guy. James like me loves to watch her in this moment, he is genuinely amazed at the intensity of her climaxes and also like me gets off hugely by watching her.

EDIT:
So after re-watching the video during editing, I totally missed the fact that she had a second orgasm approximately 40 seconds after the first one! I have no idea how I missed it but sure enough she did.
James kept the vibe pressed to her clitoris as she squirmed & writhed around during her first climax.
Now normally when she has sex with me she can't handle another orgasm too soon because they are so intense and she becomes super sensitive. But on this occasion James just kept the bullet clamped to her clit. Incredibly, less than 45 seconds later another climax tore through her, I was stunned and absolutely thrilled when I realised he'd made her cum twice in quick succession. It's a first and so amazing that it happened at the hands of another man in our own bedroom.

After the double "O" she needed a break and a cigarette, after which we are ready for round two, James wants to make her cum again, she's not saying no and neither am I.

She is flat on her back once again, James has the bullet vibe pressed against her clitoris, we are all naked and perfectly in sync.

I kiss her, her eyes are shining with excitement and desire, it strikes me then that it just seems so natural to share my wife with another man. I love her deeply but more importantly want her to be happy, this is the perfect way for us.

Sorry for the philosophical break there, but you have to experience it first hand to really understand. 

Where were we? Oh, wow, she's reaching orgasm number three, we share the moment once again. Alanna is a little embarrassed because of the whole uncontrollable way she reacts as she climaxes. James and I laugh and reassure her that no, she does not look "like a retard" when she cums.
James exclaims "I could do that all night", I agree with him, we both are blown away at the intensity of her climaxes.

We take another little break, just shooting the shit, cooling off and taking a drink.

She goes down on him again, sucking his unerect cock back to hardness, as it stiffens and grows longer. I take pictures and video with my cellphone watching intently as her lips stretch around his thick rigid shaft as she takes him deep in her mouth, she's very obviously in the moment. I take close ups, she looks directly at the camera, the desire evident, fucking incredible.

He is clearly enjoying every second but he's also ready to take her, it's been a long time since he had the pleasure of penetrating her tight little pussy. It's the moment I've been waiting for, my wife of nearly 29 years is going to get fucked in our bedroom by someone other than me, yes it's a first and also super erotic.

He slips a condom on and lubes it up, I was a little surprised, expecting him to bareback her but didn't question it. He pulled her to my side of the bed (symbolic!) flat on her back legs spread wide, knees bent. Excitedly he thrusts into her, she gasps, then chides him a little asking him to take it slow, she has been experiencing some pain during intercourse recently, something to do with age and "thinning of the vaginal tissues". This is the reality of wife sharing in your middle age vs the fantasy. Needless to say he builds up speed and is soon fucking her with long, hard and deep strokes. Their skin slapping loudly, the whole bed is shaking violently as he pounds into her. She loves to be taken hard, fast and deep. The look on her face is a mixture of pleasure and pain and is truly amazing to watch.

But less than 5 minutes later something seems to be wrong and she asks him to slow down and then to stop, suddenly it's over. She is experiencing a burning sensation which is not easing up, we are all disappointed and she's apologising to us for letting us down.

The great thing is that along with me James is fully supportive of her and the situation, both of us reassuring her that it's all good and there will always be another time.

I tell her how hot she is and how horny she has made me, trooper that she is she drops to her knees and starts sucking my cock. James grabs my phone and starts taking pictures. I get a little too animated and thrust into her mouth, pushing her off balance she falls back a little and we all laugh our asses off.

That moment right there along with how respective he is of Alanna and our relationship is what makes it so worth spending the time, being patient and finding someone like James. He tells me later that while she was sucking me he was jerking off fully intending to shoot his load onto her breasts. Her little mishap pushed the thought out of his mind, oh well next time for sure.

So at this point the evening is more or less over, I shared Alanna for the first time in our own home and James made her cum three times. Neither he or myself climaxed but it didn't matter to us, Alanna's satisfaction was our joint goal, our only concern to see her happy and fulfilled which is just as it should be.

We got dressed and chatted for a while longer, me, my wife and her secret lover but also all friends.
Just before he left we watched a few minutes of the video I made when she met him at a motel over a year ago. It was fun to share it with him, our mutual agreement on what is hot and what we'd like to do to her in future encounters.

We chatted for a few more moments, I felt so positive about the evening that I once again pitched the idea that the three of us should go away for a long weekend. The sheer appeal of spending time relaxing, having sex freely and casually with no rush or time constraints is hugely exciting. Both James and Alanna are in complete agreement so I will be making every effort to make it a reality before this year is over.

I also reminded both of them that Alanna has a permanent hall pass so they are free to set occasional get togethers up without my permission, just need to keep me in the loop.

I also reminded them that getting picture text messages of them together while I'm at work would be so fucking hot.

As for the evening, well, I'm still really excited to think about what happened in our own home. Fucking her FWB in our marital bed has been such a huge fantasy for me and now it is fulfilled. Sure there are things I wanted him to do to her including taking her ass, but nevertheless it was awesome.
I chuckle to myself, wondering if any of our neighbours have any clue what took place, a big part of the allure of the lifestyle for me is the whole secret double life twist, so hot.

So in conclusion: Highlights of the evening:

Sharing Alanna and watching first hand how much pleasure she gets out of it, James and I are in full agreement that watching her orgasm is truly a wondrous thing and so fucking hot.

Her double orgasm, it's a first and so fucking hot to watch.

The excitement and taboo of her sucking and fucking him in our bed.

I have some awesome quality video (finally!) and incredibly hot pictures.

It was truly so relaxing, just three friends having fun and lots of carefree laughs, no pressure to perform, no rush, no envy or jealousy, it seemed the most natural thing in the world to me.

For those of you already lucky enough to have a wife like mine I'm preaching to the choir, to those hoping to emulate our success, keep trying and don't ever give up, you, (and your wife!) will not regret it.

Mike.
June 28th 2017.

And finally..

It looks Like We Have a Firm Plan.

We waved goodbye to our daughter a few days ago, she has gone on vacation with friends, so we are alone in the house with only (numerous) work commitments to prevent us from pursuing potential hotwifing opportunities.

Needless to say Alanna has already contacted James who has confirmed his availability for an evening of fun this Sunday, June 25th. If you read my post on April 24th you will already know what I have in mind.

Another Fantasy About To Be Fulfilled?

Alanna has read it and simply smiled when I asked her what she thought, she has not seen him for a while so I'm expecting fireworks.
Pretty certain James will be in heaven when she gives him the opportunity to take her in all three holes, I can hardly wait, fingers crossed that nothing interferes with our plans!

Mike.
June 24th 2017.

Watching Your Partner Having Sex With Someone Else Is HOT!.

Why I Love To Watch: AKA Voyeurism.

Why watch porn? I guess it's pretty obvious really, watching people have sex is arousing, plain and simple. Lots of couples use porn as a means of charging up their sex drive, there really is nothing quite as stimulating as seeing people engaged in carnal acts.
Sure, most of the mainstream professional porn is pretty mechanical and formulaic but occasionally it does work and you get the sense that the couple on the screen have gone beyond the acting stage and have managed to create a genuine sense of actual pleasure and enjoyment!
This is much more apparant when you watch pro-amature and even more so, homemade "real" amature porn, not a lot of obvious fakery on display, and therefore so much hotter to watch.
Sorry about the little digression, (it's something regular readers will be able to attest to), but it's my way of segwaying into why I enjoy watching just as much as participating.

It's just my opinion of course but one of the main things that makes being a lifestyle couple like us so hot and horny is simply being able to watch and listen when Alanna is making out with another guy, nothing you will ever see or do can match it.

With all that said, actually being there in real time as your partner is taken by another man is (unsurprisingly) a very different experience to watching video of them or listening to audio, all three of these scenarios are highly erotic in their own way and for different reasons.
I'm going to try and explain what it means to me and why it gets me off, not sure how this is going to work out but here we go.

Watching "Live".

This of course is the "Full Monty".
If, like us, you are a couple with a strong emotional connection that goes way beyond the physical you doubtless agree there is nothing quite like being in the same room as your "Pornstar" wife as she changes persona and becomes a sex fuelled animal.

Being present means that I get to enjoy at close quarters her transition from housewife to hotwife, I can literally feel the desire radiating from her and the sexual tension and chemistry filling the room is incredible. Then there is the look in her eyes & soft moans of anticipation as he eases his fingers under the waistband of her panties. The way she locks eyes with me as she takes him in her mouth, no words spoken but so much said. The way she looks at him, her eyes burning with passion and lust. Then the moment of first penetration and subsequent impending climax, finally when she cums, the sounds. It's almost primal, and because we are so connected I am there with her all the way, yes, truly breathtaking and the ultimate sharing experience.


Watching Video.

When I'm not with Alanna and she is off on a solo date I love her to take pictures and shoot video, in many ways this offers a similar experience and feeling to watching live with one important and very obvious distinction: You are not in the room with them, duh!

Why does this make a difference? Well, it really gives a fly on the wall type of experience. Also we have found Alanna is more relaxed simply because I'm not there! That relaxation translates to her being more comfortable and therefore a little more adventurous. I have one video of her and James, I called it "No Tell Motel", literally shot with two HD cameras while I sat at home my mind working overtime. Viewing the video the next day was instant boner time, just to see her with him on our TV screen was just like watching a porn movie. The major difference being the very obvious passion and sense of abandon which shines through. followed by three powerful orgasms. She knows how much I love to watch so she plays to the camera, the look she gave the lens after her first body shaking climax was truly heart stopping, so much pure sexual lust in her eyes. With another guy she is a fucking unstoppable and incredible slut, amazingly hot to watch and highly voyeuristic.


Listening To Audio.

And finally to audio only. This is very similar to being blindfolded while having sex, essentially mimicking the deprivation of sight, one of our primary senses. You know something is going on, but you can't see, therefore you use your imagination in an attempt to visualize what is actually happening. The result of course being a heightened sense of erotisism. Take a listen to this audio, it's a genuine clip of Alanna and James during one of her visits to his home. Her breathing, the moans becoming more urgent, the movement of the bed as he relentlessly pounds into her and other unmistakable sounds of two people engaged in a highly charged sexual encounter culminating in her reaching a strong orgasm. So. Fucking. Hot!

Alanna Taking a Hard Pounding From James

Conclusion.

All three of the above scenarios are super horny in their own right, I have listed them in my particular order of preference, but I truly love them all, if, like me you are a voyeur you will get it.
We are planning another get together with James, soon, fingers crossed, the first two of my kinks discussed above are firmly on the agenda. Play safe!

Mike.
June 2017.

Well, Maybe Another Time. BUT Still Some Exciting News!

Kids are Cock blockers.

So just to follow up on our carefully planned "event" scheduled for the last Saturday in May:
We got everything prepared, house cleaned, bodies showered, bedroom prepped, cameras in place, tested and ready to go.

You probably already guessed that it all fell apart mid afternoon with a text message from James, he'd previously arranged a visit from his daughter who lives a long way out of town. He had originally thought she would be leaving for home late afternoon but of course things change and so she was now staying into the evening. Our own daughter was expected to be home around 8pm so all in all once again our collective kids turned out to be cock blockers.

A shame? Yes of course, and also disappointing, frustrating, etc, etc.
As we have discovered many times in our lifestyle journey getting schedules aligned so we can actually get together with people can be incredibly difficult. Sure it bugs the crap out of me and used to piss me off royally, but nowadays I'm more accepting of it. We all live in busy times, things happen, sometimes at very short notice forcing plans to change, so you just have to go with the flow and roll with it.

Of course James was also very disappointed but he made the right decision, family should always be your first priority. So with the apologies made, we once again have to make plans for the future.
On the upside Alanna and I were really horny so we decided to take the time to film ourselves fucking, so we did salvage something out of the afternoon.

So, onto the more exciting part:

We had a soak in the hot tub afterwards, chatting, Alanna was wondering when the next opportunity would be to get together with James. I reminded her that she has an open hall pass, meaning she is free to get together with him at any time he is available. She expressed some surprise at this and asked me if she would need to clear it with me before simply spending alone time with him. Although we have discussed this before I nevertheless explained to her that she really need not ask my permission first. And that actually, I could think of nothing more arousing than receiving a random picture text message at work of her with his cock halfway down her throat or buried deep in her pussy or ass. Yeah, it's fucked up but simply typing those words gives me a boner.

So a couple of days later, during another one of our hot tub chats she gave me one of her sideways glances and slid alongside me. "If you get a text message that says "incoming" on the notification screen don't open it in front of your colleagues". I looked at her, of course I knew why, but still felt compelled to ask. "Because It will be me with James", was her short reply.

Once again, yes it's fucked up but that was an instant boner. It's taken me a lot of time to persuade her to get over the guilt complex and just go and get her brains fucked out, when she gets off, so do I.
Of course she still has misgivings, mainly a paranoia that leaving the house without me other than walking to work will be an instant red flag to all our neighbours. I laughed and assured her that would be the last thing people would be thinking.

Ok, with all that said I also told her that she of course needed to stay as discreet as possible, adding it's only because I love and trust her that I'm completely ok with it. But of course the explicit understanding is that if things start to get out of hand or secretive then all bets are off.

It's the number one rule of Hotwifing.
The 10 Commandments of Hotwifing

Mike. June 2016.

Another Fantasy About To Be Fulfilled?

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Online Kinky Sex Quiz

I was browsing through my archives a couple of days ago, just doing a little housekeeping on my backup hard drive when I stumbled across the results of an online (kinky) sex survey Alanna and I did a few years ago.
Out of curiosity I copied and pasted the web address into my browser and yes! The site is still up and working, with new and even kinkier questions no less.

For some of you more adventurous types it could be a really good way of finding out what makes your better half tick. Let's be honest, even couples who have been together for years may be having secret fantasies but lack the courage to bring them up in a regular intimate conversation.
It took me years (and a particularly torrid sex session) to finally blurt out to Alanna that I wanted to fuck her in the ass, but when I did she surprised me with a "yes" and then told me she'd been thinking about it for a while, doh! And yes for you hopefuls, there is a whole section on anal sex in the quiz.

So, here is how it works:
You can either take the test together or separately, together is great if you have a very open dialog, or are already pretty heavily into the kinky side of things. The other option requires you to add nicknames for yourselves, plus seperate email addresses.
One of you takes the test and the site sends an email with a short (customizable) message to your partner, along with the link to the test. They complete the test (unaware of your answers) and the results are compared. Only compatible results are shown, for instance if you answer "yes" to a question about seeing her take on three Guys but she answers that question with a "no" then the question and corresponding answers will not show up in the results.
Did I explain that clearly? Lol.

Ok, so out of personal preference we take the test separately, I just did it the other evening & now have to wait for Alanna to complete it, my fingers are crossed that she continues to move further into her darkest desires. One thing is for sure, she surprised me with her answers in the BDSM section.

So go on and take the leap, the worst thing that can happen is that your partner will be able to confirm that yes, you are a pervert!

Here is the link to the site, to put your mind at rest it is not pop up hell and my virus scanner detected no malware or harmful browser hijackers, also your email inbox won't be flooded with spam.

Mojo Upgrade: Interactive Sex Quiz

Here is a link to the questions contained in the Quiz.

Mojo Sex Quiz: Questions

Just for fun, here are the results of the quiz we took way back in 2013, hard to believe it's been that long!
Feel free to share highlights of your quiz answers via the comments section, we'd love to hear from you. We'll be sure to post our latest results for comparison.
Cheers,

Mike.

Feb 2nd 2017


Your Findings:
Good news! Both of you have finished the survey.
Here are the results of the survey. 
Remember, don't judge your partner (because no one should be shamed for what they like), and make sure that all your activities are safe, sane and consensual. Have fun kids!

The Basics and then Some

Activities	Mike's Response		Alanna's Response
have longer teasing and foreplay sessions with Alanna	Yes		We already do that
take pictures of Alanna	We already do that		Yes
take pictures of Mike	If my partner is interested		Yes
strip or give a lap dance to Mike	Yes		If my partner is interested
use mirrors while having sex	We already do that		Yes
be woken up with sex or oral sex by Mike	We already do that		If my partner is interested
watch Alanna masturbate	We already do that		Yes
watch Mike masturbate	We already do that		Yes
show Alanna how I like something from porn scene	Yes		If my partner is interested
show Mike how I like something from porn scene	Yes		We already do that
thrust my penis between Alanna's breasts		We already do that		Yes
listen to romantic music while having sex		If my partner is interested		Yes
listen to more aggressive (rap/rock) music while having sex		If my partner is interested		Yes
mutually masturbate		If my partner is interested		Yes
be rougher in sex towards Alanna		If my partner is interested		Yes
be rougher in sex towards Mike		If my partner is interested		Yes
swallow Mike's cum		Yes		If my partner is interested
cum over Alanna's breasts/neck (pearl necklace)		Yes		Yes
cum over Alanna's face (facial)		Yes		Yes

Playing with Toys

Activities	Mike's Response	Alanna's Response
use a butt plug while having sex with Alanna	Yes	Yes

B.D.S.M.

Activities	Mike's Response	Alanna's Response
blindfold Alanna	We already do that	Yes
blindfold Mike	We already do that	Yes
use restraints on Alanna	We already do that	Yes
use restraints on Mike	We already do that	Yes
pull Alanna's hair	If my partner is interested	Yes
use a riding crop on Alanna	We already do that	Yes
use a riding crop on Mike	If my partner is interested	Yes
spank Alanna with toys (whip/paddle)	We already do that	Yes
spank Mike with toys (whip/paddle)	If my partner is interested	Yes
have Alanna be submissive and worship one of my body parts	We already do that	Yes
have Mike be submissive and worship one of my body parts	We already do that	Yes
be submissive for Alanna	If my partner is interested	Yes
be submissive for Mike	If my partner is interested	Yes
roleplay rape Alanna	If my partner is interested	Yes
command and deny orgasms for Mike	If my partner is interested	Yes
wear a chastity belt for Alanna	If my partner is interested	Yes

Anal Play

Activities	Mike's Response	Alanna's Response
anally penetrate Alanna	Yes	We already do that
double penetrate Alanna with Mike and a toy	Yes	We already do that
peg Mike with a strap-on	Yes	Yes

Group and Public Fun

Activities	Mike's Response	Alanna's Response
fondle Alanna in a public setting (restaurant/theater)	Yes	Yes
fondle Mike in a public setting (restaurant/theater)	Yes	Yes
double penetration by your Mike and another man	Yes	Yes
triple penetration by your Mike two other men	Yes	Yes
have sex in the woods or in a park	If my partner is interested	If my partner is interested
have sex monogamously with other couples (don't touch other couples)	Yes	If my partner is interested
include more than two men in sex	Yes	If my partner is interested
go to a pleasure resort with Alanna	Yes	If my partner is interested

Other Fetishes

Activities	Mike's Response	Alanna's Response
suck semen out of Alanna's vagina or anus after sex (felching)	We already do that	Yes