Cuckolding: What It Means To Me.

My Perspective.

So, the word "Cuckold" is not a word that a lot of us husbands of Hotwives want to be associated with, let alone actually be labelled as being one.
If you are reading this you are likely already very familiar with the term Cuckolding, having reached this page from a Google search for "Hotwife", or perhaps through one of the Forums ("Our Hotwives", maybe) that we frequent.
Nevertheless, it's worth confirming the definition of what a Cuckold actually is.

From the Collins English Dictionary:
"A man whose spouse has committed adultery, often regarded as an object of scorn".

Or the Oxford English Dictionary:
"A man whose wife is sexually unfaithful, often regarded as an object of derision".
"Make another man a cuckold by having a sexual relationship with his wife".

Or the Urban Dictionary:
"A sexually inadequate husband who accepts his wife's pussy is her sole property and she alone decides which men she will fuck,even if it means denying her husband. His only access to her pussy is to clean it of the ejaculate of males she chooses to fuck".

"A man who finds it arousing to watch his girlfriend or wife having sex with another man".

"A man who gains sexual pleasure in the knowledge that his wife has made love or is making love to other men. Cuckolds are usually submissive, often have a small penis, suffer from premature ejaculation, 'enjoy' sexual humiliation and are rarely able to satisfy their wives".

"A man who willingly encourages his wife to sleep with other people because it brings him pleasure. Cuckolds exist on a spectrum between two extremes. One on end is the masochistic cuckold who enjoys humiliations, degradation, and other demeaning activities at the hands of his wife and her lover. The alpha cuckold lies at the opposite end of the spectrum and does not enjoy any form of humiliation and often has a direct say in who his wife sleeps with and when".

As you can see the urban dictionary has several different takes on the two "official" dictionary meanings, the ones I quoted are just four of many.
My point being like most words in the english language "Cuckold" has, and is still evolving to take on new meanings, or at least different levels of meaning.

In terms of Hotwifing, yes, us husbands are Cuckold because our wives are being fucked by other men. However, the waters are muddy and continue to stay muddied because there are so many opinions on what a Cuckold actually is.

To recap:
If your Wife is being fucked by someone else whether you are aware of it or not, you are by definition a Cuckold, or in short form "Cuck".

My opinion on why some of us HW husbands are not keen to be given the label is because of the widely accepted connection to being submissive to, or humiliated by our Wives, and or dominated and humiliated by their lovers.

Of course there exists many different levels of kink within the community, there are for sure men who are willingly submissive, wear cock cages, are denied sex, etc. And actually get off  by being humiliated by their wives and lovers.
This is the dominant, (pun intended) view of Cuckolding, and actually goes way beyond the straightforward dictionary definition, but hold on a minute..

There are those like me who are not in any way submissive, particularly to the Wife's lover, but willingly share them for the mutual benefit of sexual pleasure and broadening sexual horizons.
This, more recently (I think) has become to be known as a Stag / Vixen relationship whereby the married male willingly shares his wife with another male, often referred to as a "Bull".

Actually, to digress, I loathe the term "Bull:" when applied to anything other than the farmyard animal. Yeah, I get it, a Bull is used for the sole purpose of fucking, or "breeding", but in my mind de-humanizes her lover along with the whole sharing experience.
But then again, I know there are men who love to use the term and get off at the thought or their wives "being bred".
And yes, in this context I also see the irony of referring to the guys who fuck my wife as her "lover", but it is at least, more accurate, IMHO.

Now, where was I?
Yeah, it took me a long time to accept that I am in fact a cuckold, mainly because the term as generally defined and popular belief implies submissiveness, inadequacy, under-endowment, etc, etc.

I don't believe that any of those things apply to me, I share Alanna simply for the sheer pleasure of doing so, if I told her we were no longer going to indulge in Hotwifing she would shrug and say "ok", (not that I have any intention of doing so, lol).

So what was the point of this post? Well, like I said, I struggled for a long time to come to terms with
the whole notion that I was actually being cuckolded, willingly or not. But nowadays I'm much more relaxed about the whole thing, it's just a word, or perhaps a label that has many different levels of meaning.

As for my personal standing as a Cuck my preferences are a mashup:

Yes, my wife fucks other men with my knowledge and blessing.

No, I'm not subservient to her or to them.

Does she get fucked better by her lovers than me?
Quite likely, yes, do I feel humiliated? Nope. As long as she had a great time, I'm good with that.

Would I eat her lovers creampie?
Yes I would, it's high on my fantasy list along with being underneath her eating her while she's being fucked.
Does that make me gay or bi?
I doubt it, but I really have no idea, and furthermore don't care, if it feels good then do it.

So in conclusion, I'm very comfortable and confidant in my own skin, call me what you like, after all, I'm the one who gets to share the unbelievably erotic times with Alanna when she fucks other men.

Mike.
August 13th 2017.