Alanna still has the ability to Surprise me.

Exciting news the husband of every Hotwife wants to hear.

Just a little bit of background information to set the scene:
Alanna works in retail on customer service, in this role she obviously gets to meet a lot of people. Several months ago one of the customers, we'll call him "Eric"  showed up at her counter to return an item. They started talking and she felt an immediate connection to him, since then he has become a more frequent visitor who always takes the opportunity to stop by to chat with her.
It was pretty obvious he was attracted to her and she flirted with him during every encounter to gauge the level of his interest.
Around a month ago she casually mentioned something she'd seen on Facebook and asked if he'd also seen it. He fell for the bait and told her he was also on Facebook and if she was okay with it would search for her. Of course she agreed and that same evening received a friends request from him.
It gets more interesting from this point.

I should mention he lost his Wife to cancer a few years ago, he's single but has a female companion, Alanna has some misgivings about that aspect because she / we never want to be responsible for wrecking someone else's relationship. More of that later..

A few days after adding him to her friends list she received a random private message from him, he mentioned that he'd been looking at her picture library and had seen a couple of sexy pictures from the Boudoir photo shoot she did back in 2014. She asked me if she should send him a few more, I told her I'd select a few that I knew were irresistibly hot from a guys perspective.
Needless to say when he saw them he told her that the pictures got him hard as he fantasized about her.
She fanned the flames by flirting with him, a lot.

Which brings me up to the present, a couple of days ago she told me she'd been messaging earlier with Eric," he'd contacted her out of the blue in order to compliment her again on her boudoir pictures.
She handed me her phone so I could read the conversation between them.

*Note to newbies*
ALWAYS maintain full disclosure with your partner, the moment you try to hide something might be the beginning of the end of your relationship!

I read through the small talk which got more and more flirtatious, he said he'd lusted over the pictures and imagined seeing more of her.
At this point in the conversation she switched into full on Hotwife mode and asked him if he was in a relationship. He replied that he was, (not married though), she replied that it was a pity because she had certain liberties.
Of course he asked what she meant, and she flat out told him that we are a Stag and Vixen couple and I like to share her with other men.
Amazingly he didn't freak out, but said he would definitely be interested, then for the remainder of the conversation kept referencing the boner he had.
He told her he imagined her sucking his cock, she replied she was really good at it and she'd love to prove it sometime!
He said he'd love to talk and she suggested meeting for a coffee, he accepted. 😀

OK, with all that said, we had a conversation after I'd read the messages twice. I'm a little freaked out myself, she is not normally so forward, but holy shit! I told her I'm really impressed how she took control and seized the initiative. Precisely what us husbands of Hotwives want, am I right?
Of course there is a moral dilemma, he's a widower but in a relationship, not engaged though. Alanna has a few misgivings but is busy reconciling his status vs her ability to fuck him.
I told her as far as I'm concerned it's her decision, I don't need to meet him first which is my normal requirement because she already has a friendly relationship with him.
She is seriously into this guy, so if things progress he's in for one hell of a good time, he's going to get the full Alanna treatment.
My fingers are crossed that one day soon I'll receive a kik message with a picture or two of his cock buried in her talented mouth and sweet little pussy.
Watch this space..

Mike.
Aug 28th 2019

Well, that didn't go to plan, the lifestyle can be so bloody frustrating..

Oh, before I get started, Alanna just had a birthday, she's by far the hottest 56 year old I know 😋

Alanna at 55 Years Old

So as you might guess from the title our planned romp with James was a bust, he flaked out at the last minute and decided to go up north on Saturday, we were both bummed out, Alanna particularly so.

I have a personal philosophy to try and turn negatives into positives, with that in mind we chatted and decided to up the stakes in the quest to find more reliable playmates.
As you know from the previous post we refreshed her profile on Naked World and got a huge response, too many to go through in detail quite honestly. Predictably a large percentage were from the usual fakes & flakes, it makes it almost a chore wading through dozens of messages, ranging from a single word "Hi" to rambling paragraphs banging on about fulfilling all of your most intimate desires as I bring you to multiple orgasms", blah, blah.
And if she sees another profile with nothing but dick pics in the private section I think she'll bust a blood vessel. 😏
Yes, we guys are proud of our penises, but oddly enough Alanna likes to also see the body and face attached to the appendage.

So what to do? I applied some lateral thinking and on a whim created a profile for her on Ashley Madison. We both worked on the profile for quite a while, carefully pointing out that yes, she knew it was a cheaters site, but was only interested in single men, or attached men playing with permission.

I'm happy to report we have achieved very promising results, lots of interest, only one dick pic so far, and good looking guys who are giving her their cell phone number and if attached access to their spouse to confirm all is good.

So in less than a week we have 6 potential playmates lined up, we're meeting the first one for coffee on labour day weekend. With luck there will be a connection & Alanna will have a new friend to entertain.

As a footnote I've been corresponding with James, he's realised he fucked up & is now hoping to sneak back into her good books. She'll let him back in eventually because she loves the way he fucks her, but she's not going to make it easy.

Mike.
Aug 26th 2019

Yes! We're Back!

August 3rd 2019.

Hard to believe it's been a couple of years since we last posted. 😲
It would be cool to report how many naughty encounters Alanna has had, however, the truth is we took a break. Those longer term readers of our blog will remember that the last time we saw James, Alanna experienced some difficulties with pain during intercourse which brought the session to an abrupt end. At least from the penetration aspect. Link> Fucked by James in our bedroom.

She sought professional help and thanks to the wonders of modern medicine is now back to full sexual health, able once more to enjoy a deep and intense fucking. In the last couple of years we have been living our lives like most couples, neither of us have talked about lifestyle activities for a long time. Quite frankly I thought she'd decided to give it up which was of course disappointing but totally understandable. I wanted to bring the subject up several times but decided against it for a couple of reasons. The first reason is because of something I learned a long time ago with Alanna, it's best to allow her the time and space to make her own choices. Sure it is frustrating at times. but in the long run it usually pays off, as an example it took her years to grant me access to her ass, but once ready she was a willing participant.
The second reason was simply fear of rejection, yes, even after 30 years of marriage there are still those insecurities lurking in the dark corners of my mind.

With all that said you can imagine how pleasantly surprised I was when a couple of weeks ago out of the blue she informed me that she'd been corresponding with James and was planning to set up a date with him.
It's hard to explain how elated I felt, suddenly our relationship took on a whole new spurt (😉) of sexual energy.
She broke the news to me late one evening, (presumably after corresponding with him), already in her robe she announced that she also wanted a "soak and poke" in our hot tub before we went to bed.
I joined her a few minutes later and she whispered to me that she had a large dildo buried in her pussy.
She bounced up and down on it while sucking my cock like a woman possessed, holy shit she was hornier than I've seen her in a long time, clearly and very firmly back into Hotwife mode.
Once upstairs she was grinding her pussy into my face and had a huge climax, we fucked, there was no lovemaking she wanted it hard and fast.

Over the next several days she was constantly horny and wanted sex whenever the opportunity arose. Those of you reading this who are already blessed with a Hotwife will be familiar with this scenario. If you are an aspiring Hotwife or a hopeful husband I can assure you that your own relationship will benefit enormously if you can successfully move beyond the boundaries of your monogamous marriage.

Unknown to me she was attempting to arrange a daytime play date with James while I was at work, something I've been fantasising about for a long time. Her plan was to send me a random text message of his cock buried in her mouth or pussy. Unfortunately he let her down at the last minute which frustrated her. She told me this after he let her down, I suggested we start looking for other playmates in order to improve her chances of success, I'm glad to say she eagerly agreed!

Alanna at 55 years old

She updated her profile on the swinger website we've been using for years but have not logged on to since her last get together with James. Link>Siren

Profile

Needless to say, the response has been incredible, her inbox is full of messages from would be fuck buddies, it's going tor be quite a challenge to go through them all.
One thing I found particularly exciting and proud of is that her profile page scored the highest daily rating from the site membership, that's her on the bottom right.







We've already been in touch with a few hopefuls and short listed some of them.
I've written about it before but in case you missed it, remember there are far more fakes and flakes than people genuinely looking to get laid. A big percentage of the guys who inhabit adult dating websites are just in it for a cheap thrill and looking to collect your private pictures. We do have a system to weed them out but it makes the process tedious.

Ok, to bring things right up to date, James is meant to be paying us a visit on August 5th, we'll be alone in the house all day and Alanna told me she wants to spend some one on one time with him before I join in and we double team her. 😈

She does have some doubts he'll show up because despite bugging her for a couple of weeks he's blown her off a couple of times. It will be a shame if he doesn't come, but on the upside makes her decision to add more contacts in her little black book more important.
That's all I have for now, stay tuned.

Mike.
August 3rd 2019

Cuckolding: What It Means To Me.

My Perspective.

So, the word "Cuckold" is not a word that a lot of us husbands of Hotwives want to be associated with, let alone actually be labelled as being one.
If you are reading this you are likely already very familiar with the term Cuckolding, having reached this page from a Google search for "Hotwife", or perhaps through one of the Forums ("Our Hotwives", maybe) that we frequent.
Nevertheless, it's worth confirming the definition of what a Cuckold actually is.

From the Collins English Dictionary:
"A man whose spouse has committed adultery, often regarded as an object of scorn".

Or the Oxford English Dictionary:
"A man whose wife is sexually unfaithful, often regarded as an object of derision".
"Make another man a cuckold by having a sexual relationship with his wife".

Or the Urban Dictionary:
"A sexually inadequate husband who accepts his wife's pussy is her sole property and she alone decides which men she will fuck,even if it means denying her husband. His only access to her pussy is to clean it of the ejaculate of males she chooses to fuck".

"A man who finds it arousing to watch his girlfriend or wife having sex with another man".

"A man who gains sexual pleasure in the knowledge that his wife has made love or is making love to other men. Cuckolds are usually submissive, often have a small penis, suffer from premature ejaculation, 'enjoy' sexual humiliation and are rarely able to satisfy their wives".

"A man who willingly encourages his wife to sleep with other people because it brings him pleasure. Cuckolds exist on a spectrum between two extremes. One on end is the masochistic cuckold who enjoys humiliations, degradation, and other demeaning activities at the hands of his wife and her lover. The alpha cuckold lies at the opposite end of the spectrum and does not enjoy any form of humiliation and often has a direct say in who his wife sleeps with and when".

As you can see the urban dictionary has several different takes on the two "official" dictionary meanings, the ones I quoted are just four of many.
My point being like most words in the english language "Cuckold" has, and is still evolving to take on new meanings, or at least different levels of meaning.

In terms of Hotwifing, yes, us husbands are Cuckold because our wives are being fucked by other men. However, the waters are muddy and continue to stay muddied because there are so many opinions on what a Cuckold actually is.

To recap:
If your Wife is being fucked by someone else whether you are aware of it or not, you are by definition a Cuckold, or in short form "Cuck".

My opinion on why some of us HW husbands are not keen to be given the label is because of the widely accepted connection to being submissive to, or humiliated by our Wives, and or dominated and humiliated by their lovers.

Of course there exists many different levels of kink within the community, there are for sure men who are willingly submissive, wear cock cages, are denied sex, etc. And actually get off  by being humiliated by their wives and lovers.
This is the dominant, (pun intended) view of Cuckolding, and actually goes way beyond the straightforward dictionary definition, but hold on a minute..

There are those like me who are not in any way submissive, particularly to the Wife's lover, but willingly share them for the mutual benefit of sexual pleasure and broadening sexual horizons.
This, more recently (I think) has become to be known as a Stag / Vixen relationship whereby the married male willingly shares his wife with another male, often referred to as a "Bull".

Actually, to digress, I loathe the term "Bull:" when applied to anything other than the farmyard animal. Yeah, I get it, a Bull is used for the sole purpose of fucking, or "breeding", but in my mind de-humanizes her lover along with the whole sharing experience.
But then again, I know there are men who love to use the term and get off at the thought or their wives "being bred".
And yes, in this context I also see the irony of referring to the guys who fuck my wife as her "lover", but it is at least, more accurate, IMHO.

Now, where was I?
Yeah, it took me a long time to accept that I am in fact a cuckold, mainly because the term as generally defined and popular belief implies submissiveness, inadequacy, under-endowment, etc, etc.

I don't believe that any of those things apply to me, I share Alanna simply for the sheer pleasure of doing so, if I told her we were no longer going to indulge in Hotwifing she would shrug and say "ok", (not that I have any intention of doing so, lol).

So what was the point of this post? Well, like I said, I struggled for a long time to come to terms with
the whole notion that I was actually being cuckolded, willingly or not. But nowadays I'm much more relaxed about the whole thing, it's just a word, or perhaps a label that has many different levels of meaning.

As for my personal standing as a Cuck my preferences are a mashup:

Yes, my wife fucks other men with my knowledge and blessing.

No, I'm not subservient to her or to them.

Does she get fucked better by her lovers than me?
Quite likely, yes, do I feel humiliated? Nope. As long as she had a great time, I'm good with that.

Would I eat her lovers creampie?
Yes I would, it's high on my fantasy list along with being underneath her eating her while she's being fucked.
Does that make me gay or bi?
I doubt it, but I really have no idea, and furthermore don't care, if it feels good then do it.

So in conclusion, I'm very comfortable and confidant in my own skin, call me what you like, after all, I'm the one who gets to share the unbelievably erotic times with Alanna when she fucks other men.

Mike.
August 13th 2017.

Why Do I Love To Watch My Wife Fuck Other Men?

Interesting question.

This post is an attempt to build on a previous post from earlier this year.
As I said then the short answer is that it's really hot, but I'll attempt to explain further, and what I lack in wordsmithing ability I'll use a sequence of Gif's I made from my all time favorite Hotwifing movie " I love my Hotwife," (New Sensations) starring Ava Dalush. Because, you know, a picture paints a thousand words and this particular highly erotic movie is so well acted / shot it should be on top of your list as well. If you are not yet able to get your S.O. into hotwifing or any extra marital sexual activity get hold of a copy of this movie and watch it with her. You never know, it may just help to change her mind.
Click the pictures to expand them and enjoy, the sequence pretty much sums all the following words up.
Ok, I digressed again, a bad habit of mine I know. So where to begin?

It's the ultimate voyeurism experience.
If like me you like porn movies then you are already at least halfway to understanding why watching your wife have sex with someone else would be hot. Watching porn is simple voyeurism, substitute the actress on screen with your Wife and imagine that is her taking that cock.
So, literally, for me, Alanna is my all time favourite pornstar, she just happens to also be my wife.

It's exciting for her, (and me!).
So, do your best to remember the first time you had sex with your wife, way before you got married. Remember how hot it was? How you fucked like rabbits at every available opportunity?
So now, many years later you are still having great sex, (but likely less of it). It's certainly not boring because over the years you have tried quite a few new things, even kinky stuff to keep it fresh and exciting, right? But, no matter how hard you try you cannot re-capture that original level of excitement.

Now imagine your wife starting over with someone new.
The undeniable sexual tension as they kiss, hands exploring each others bodies, releasing her breasts from her bra, squeezing them as he licks and sucks on the firm nipples.
His hand slips under the waistband of her damp panties, she's moaning softly, then cries out with the sudden electric jolt as he strokes her clitoris. She's already way past the point of no return, fully committed, she has to have him, no turning back now.
She is wondering how big he is and how good he's going to be in the sack, fumbling with his belt with trembling hands, prior to unzipping and releasing his hard cock. Then quickly taking him into her willing mouth, gagging a little as she deepthroats him, wanting to impress with her cock sucking skills.

Then, breasts heaving because she is breathing so hard in anticipation, her new lover penetrates her for the first time, it feels different but so good, and yes, he's super excited too and after a gentle start is fucking her brains out with deep, powerful thrusts. He skillfully makes her cum in multiple positions for the next two hours, something you have not done with her for years. He may be a little rough with her, slapping her ass and slipping his thumb into it, then pulling her head back by her hair as he plows her pussy doggy style. Sure, you have done some of those things as well, but you always held back a little not wanting to hurt her or get cussed out.
But he is not playing the game by the same rules. She is probably loving it and may allow him to do things to her she has never allowed you to do because in that moment her libido is firmly in charge and anything goes.
Even after he leaves despite being sore and tired she's still fully alive, every nerve ending tingling with excitement as she willingly engages with you for reclaim sex.
Yes, sex with a new partner, there is simply no substitute.


It had a positive impact on our marriage.
Selling your Wife on the benefits of sharing her with others is potentially a very tough thing to do because all conventional wisdom would have you believe that introducing a third party inside the sanctimony of your marriage can only lead to disaster, right?
Well yes, of course it can lead to disaster, but if you already have a rock solid relationship with your partner then there really is much less to be concerned about.
Alanna is not interested in forming a relationship with a third party along with the corresponding emotional baggage and complexity. No, she just loves the freedom to experience the excitement of pure sex just for the hell of it. Because of our close connection, that excitement is directly transferred to me to share with her on an emotional level.
Sounds complicated? Not really, even though she downplays it a little it is easy to tell just how much she enjoys it, tough to hide the spontaneous smiles and body language along with the incredibly powerful orgasms.
The short answer is it clearly makes her happy and therefore makes me happy too.

It's taboo.
A big part of the thrill is sharing a secret lifestyle, our vanilla friends would likely be horrified if they ever found out I share Alanna with other guys. But I'm also guessing some of them would also be envious despite the feigned horror.
I still get a laugh when I think back a month or so when James came to visit our home.
To our neighbours we just had a friend over for a couple of hours. They would never in their wildest imagination guess that Alanna took him upstairs to our bedroom. And while I watched, he brought her to three body shaking climaxes followed by the hardest fucking she's ever had in our bed.

So in conclusion, I think the above words combined with the Gifs adequately convey why I love to watch my wife play with other men. I have said it many times throughout this blog it is easily the most erotic and sexually fulfilling thing you will ever experience in your life.

What are you waiting for?

Mike.
July 19th 2017