Watching Your Partner Having Sex With Someone Else Is HOT!.

Why I Love To Watch: AKA Voyeurism.

Why watch porn? I guess it's pretty obvious really, watching people have sex is arousing, plain and simple. Lots of couples use porn as a means of charging up their sex drive, there really is nothing quite as stimulating as seeing people engaged in carnal acts.
Sure, most of the mainstream professional porn is pretty mechanical and formulaic but occasionally it does work and you get the sense that the couple on the screen have gone beyond the acting stage and have managed to create a genuine sense of actual pleasure and enjoyment!
This is much more apparant when you watch pro-amature and even more so, homemade "real" amature porn, not a lot of obvious fakery on display, and therefore so much hotter to watch.
Sorry about the little digression, (it's something regular readers will be able to attest to), but it's my way of segwaying into why I enjoy watching just as much as participating.

It's just my opinion of course but one of the main things that makes being a lifestyle couple like us so hot and horny is simply being able to watch and listen when Alanna is making out with another guy, nothing you will ever see or do can match it.

With all that said, actually being there in real time as your partner is taken by another man is (unsurprisingly) a very different experience to watching video of them or listening to audio, all three of these scenarios are highly erotic in their own way and for different reasons.
I'm going to try and explain what it means to me and why it gets me off, not sure how this is going to work out but here we go.

Watching "Live".

This of course is the "Full Monty".
If, like us, you are a couple with a strong emotional connection that goes way beyond the physical you doubtless agree there is nothing quite like being in the same room as your "Pornstar" wife as she changes persona and becomes a sex fuelled animal.

Being present means that I get to enjoy at close quarters her transition from housewife to hotwife, I can literally feel the desire radiating from her and the sexual tension and chemistry filling the room is incredible. Then there is the look in her eyes & soft moans of anticipation as he eases his fingers under the waistband of her panties. The way she locks eyes with me as she takes him in her mouth, no words spoken but so much said. The way she looks at him, her eyes burning with passion and lust. Then the moment of first penetration and subsequent impending climax, finally when she cums, the sounds. It's almost primal, and because we are so connected I am there with her all the way, yes, truly breathtaking and the ultimate sharing experience.


Watching Video.

When I'm not with Alanna and she is off on a solo date I love her to take pictures and shoot video, in many ways this offers a similar experience and feeling to watching live with one important and very obvious distinction: You are not in the room with them, duh!

Why does this make a difference? Well, it really gives a fly on the wall type of experience. Also we have found Alanna is more relaxed simply because I'm not there! That relaxation translates to her being more comfortable and therefore a little more adventurous. I have one video of her and James, I called it "No Tell Motel", literally shot with two HD cameras while I sat at home my mind working overtime. Viewing the video the next day was instant boner time, just to see her with him on our TV screen was just like watching a porn movie. The major difference being the very obvious passion and sense of abandon which shines through. followed by three powerful orgasms. She knows how much I love to watch so she plays to the camera, the look she gave the lens after her first body shaking climax was truly heart stopping, so much pure sexual lust in her eyes. With another guy she is a fucking unstoppable and incredible slut, amazingly hot to watch and highly voyeuristic.


Listening To Audio.

And finally to audio only. This is very similar to being blindfolded while having sex, essentially mimicking the deprivation of sight, one of our primary senses. You know something is going on, but you can't see, therefore you use your imagination in an attempt to visualize what is actually happening. The result of course being a heightened sense of erotisism. Take a listen to this audio, it's a genuine clip of Alanna and James during one of her visits to his home. Her breathing, the moans becoming more urgent, the movement of the bed as he relentlessly pounds into her and other unmistakable sounds of two people engaged in a highly charged sexual encounter culminating in her reaching a strong orgasm. So. Fucking. Hot!

Alanna Taking a Hard Pounding From James

Conclusion.

All three of the above scenarios are super horny in their own right, I have listed them in my particular order of preference, but I truly love them all, if, like me you are a voyeur you will get it.
We are planning another get together with James, soon, fingers crossed, the first two of my kinks discussed above are firmly on the agenda. Play safe!

Mike.
June 2017.

Well, Maybe Another Time. BUT Still Some Exciting News!

Kids are Cock blockers.

So just to follow up on our carefully planned "event" scheduled for the last Saturday in May:
We got everything prepared, house cleaned, bodies showered, bedroom prepped, cameras in place, tested and ready to go.

You probably already guessed that it all fell apart mid afternoon with a text message from James, he'd previously arranged a visit from his daughter who lives a long way out of town. He had originally thought she would be leaving for home late afternoon but of course things change and so she was now staying into the evening. Our own daughter was expected to be home around 8pm so all in all once again our collective kids turned out to be cock blockers.

A shame? Yes of course, and also disappointing, frustrating, etc, etc.
As we have discovered many times in our lifestyle journey getting schedules aligned so we can actually get together with people can be incredibly difficult. Sure it bugs the crap out of me and used to piss me off royally, but nowadays I'm more accepting of it. We all live in busy times, things happen, sometimes at very short notice forcing plans to change, so you just have to go with the flow and roll with it.

Of course James was also very disappointed but he made the right decision, family should always be your first priority. So with the apologies made, we once again have to make plans for the future.
On the upside Alanna and I were really horny so we decided to take the time to film ourselves fucking, so we did salvage something out of the afternoon.

So, onto the more exciting part:

We had a soak in the hot tub afterwards, chatting, Alanna was wondering when the next opportunity would be to get together with James. I reminded her that she has an open hall pass, meaning she is free to get together with him at any time he is available. She expressed some surprise at this and asked me if she would need to clear it with me before simply spending alone time with him. Although we have discussed this before I nevertheless explained to her that she really need not ask my permission first. And that actually, I could think of nothing more arousing than receiving a random picture text message at work of her with his cock halfway down her throat or buried deep in her pussy or ass. Yeah, it's fucked up but simply typing those words gives me a boner.

So a couple of days later, during another one of our hot tub chats she gave me one of her sideways glances and slid alongside me. "If you get a text message that says "incoming" on the notification screen don't open it in front of your colleagues". I looked at her, of course I knew why, but still felt compelled to ask. "Because It will be me with James", was her short reply.

Once again, yes it's fucked up but that was an instant boner. It's taken me a lot of time to persuade her to get over the guilt complex and just go and get her brains fucked out, when she gets off, so do I.
Of course she still has misgivings, mainly a paranoia that leaving the house without me other than walking to work will be an instant red flag to all our neighbours. I laughed and assured her that would be the last thing people would be thinking.

Ok, with all that said I also told her that she of course needed to stay as discreet as possible, adding it's only because I love and trust her that I'm completely ok with it. But of course the explicit understanding is that if things start to get out of hand or secretive then all bets are off.

It's the number one rule of Hotwifing.
The 10 Commandments of Hotwifing

Mike. June 2016.

Another Fantasy About To Be Fulfilled?

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Online Kinky Sex Quiz

I was browsing through my archives a couple of days ago, just doing a little housekeeping on my backup hard drive when I stumbled across the results of an online (kinky) sex survey Alanna and I did a few years ago.
Out of curiosity I copied and pasted the web address into my browser and yes! The site is still up and working, with new and even kinkier questions no less.

For some of you more adventurous types it could be a really good way of finding out what makes your better half tick. Let's be honest, even couples who have been together for years may be having secret fantasies but lack the courage to bring them up in a regular intimate conversation.
It took me years (and a particularly torrid sex session) to finally blurt out to Alanna that I wanted to fuck her in the ass, but when I did she surprised me with a "yes" and then told me she'd been thinking about it for a while, doh! And yes for you hopefuls, there is a whole section on anal sex in the quiz.

So, here is how it works:
You can either take the test together or separately, together is great if you have a very open dialog, or are already pretty heavily into the kinky side of things. The other option requires you to add nicknames for yourselves, plus seperate email addresses.
One of you takes the test and the site sends an email with a short (customizable) message to your partner, along with the link to the test. They complete the test (unaware of your answers) and the results are compared. Only compatible results are shown, for instance if you answer "yes" to a question about seeing her take on three Guys but she answers that question with a "no" then the question and corresponding answers will not show up in the results.
Did I explain that clearly? Lol.

Ok, so out of personal preference we take the test separately, I just did it the other evening & now have to wait for Alanna to complete it, my fingers are crossed that she continues to move further into her darkest desires. One thing is for sure, she surprised me with her answers in the BDSM section.

So go on and take the leap, the worst thing that can happen is that your partner will be able to confirm that yes, you are a pervert!

Here is the link to the site, to put your mind at rest it is not pop up hell and my virus scanner detected no malware or harmful browser hijackers, also your email inbox won't be flooded with spam.

Mojo Upgrade: Interactive Sex Quiz

Here is a link to the questions contained in the Quiz.

Mojo Sex Quiz: Questions

Just for fun, here are the results of the quiz we took way back in 2013, hard to believe it's been that long!
Feel free to share highlights of your quiz answers via the comments section, we'd love to hear from you. We'll be sure to post our latest results for comparison.
Cheers,

Mike.

Feb 2nd 2017


Your Findings:
Good news! Both of you have finished the survey.
Here are the results of the survey. 
Remember, don't judge your partner (because no one should be shamed for what they like), and make sure that all your activities are safe, sane and consensual. Have fun kids!

The Basics and then Some

Activities	Mike's Response		Alanna's Response
have longer teasing and foreplay sessions with Alanna	Yes		We already do that
take pictures of Alanna	We already do that		Yes
take pictures of Mike	If my partner is interested		Yes
strip or give a lap dance to Mike	Yes		If my partner is interested
use mirrors while having sex	We already do that		Yes
be woken up with sex or oral sex by Mike	We already do that		If my partner is interested
watch Alanna masturbate	We already do that		Yes
watch Mike masturbate	We already do that		Yes
show Alanna how I like something from porn scene	Yes		If my partner is interested
show Mike how I like something from porn scene	Yes		We already do that
thrust my penis between Alanna's breasts		We already do that		Yes
listen to romantic music while having sex		If my partner is interested		Yes
listen to more aggressive (rap/rock) music while having sex		If my partner is interested		Yes
mutually masturbate		If my partner is interested		Yes
be rougher in sex towards Alanna		If my partner is interested		Yes
be rougher in sex towards Mike		If my partner is interested		Yes
swallow Mike's cum		Yes		If my partner is interested
cum over Alanna's breasts/neck (pearl necklace)		Yes		Yes
cum over Alanna's face (facial)		Yes		Yes

Playing with Toys

Activities	Mike's Response	Alanna's Response
use a butt plug while having sex with Alanna	Yes	Yes

B.D.S.M.

Activities	Mike's Response	Alanna's Response
blindfold Alanna	We already do that	Yes
blindfold Mike	We already do that	Yes
use restraints on Alanna	We already do that	Yes
use restraints on Mike	We already do that	Yes
pull Alanna's hair	If my partner is interested	Yes
use a riding crop on Alanna	We already do that	Yes
use a riding crop on Mike	If my partner is interested	Yes
spank Alanna with toys (whip/paddle)	We already do that	Yes
spank Mike with toys (whip/paddle)	If my partner is interested	Yes
have Alanna be submissive and worship one of my body parts	We already do that	Yes
have Mike be submissive and worship one of my body parts	We already do that	Yes
be submissive for Alanna	If my partner is interested	Yes
be submissive for Mike	If my partner is interested	Yes
roleplay rape Alanna	If my partner is interested	Yes
command and deny orgasms for Mike	If my partner is interested	Yes
wear a chastity belt for Alanna	If my partner is interested	Yes

Anal Play

Activities	Mike's Response	Alanna's Response
anally penetrate Alanna	Yes	We already do that
double penetrate Alanna with Mike and a toy	Yes	We already do that
peg Mike with a strap-on	Yes	Yes

Group and Public Fun

Activities	Mike's Response	Alanna's Response
fondle Alanna in a public setting (restaurant/theater)	Yes	Yes
fondle Mike in a public setting (restaurant/theater)	Yes	Yes
double penetration by your Mike and another man	Yes	Yes
triple penetration by your Mike two other men	Yes	Yes
have sex in the woods or in a park	If my partner is interested	If my partner is interested
have sex monogamously with other couples (don't touch other couples)	Yes	If my partner is interested
include more than two men in sex	Yes	If my partner is interested
go to a pleasure resort with Alanna	Yes	If my partner is interested

Other Fetishes

Activities	Mike's Response	Alanna's Response
suck semen out of Alanna's vagina or anus after sex (felching)	We already do that	Yes

Back in The Saddle Again?

Well, its been quite a while.

Since we dabbled in any Hotwifing activities that is, I switched to a new medication that pretty much killed my libido. "So what"? You may say, surely that's even more reason for Alanna to indulge herself in the company of other men would be your argument. Well I can't really disagree but bless her she has abstained despite my efforts to encourage her. She figures that if I can't then she won't or something like that, but I digress.

During our daily hot tub dip this morning she nonchalantly informed me that she had been sexting with James and really wanted to get back together with him either alone or for a threesome sometime this weekend.
Well, despite my low libido I of course readily agreed, I mean why would I want to turn down that opportunity?
So I asked her to text him & set something up, I know she has been wanting to try a DP for quite a while now and yeah, the thought of her riding me while he fucks her in the ass gets me very hard.

Needless to say I'll take my trusty Go-pro knock off to record the event.

Fingers crossed!

Mike.
November 2016