Well, its been 27 years today...

Since we got married.

Hard to believe those 27 years have just slipped by without either of us really noticing.
I was trying to do the math and figure out just how many of those years passed before we switched our relationship up a notch and started, erm, experimenting.

We have gone through ups and downs over the years like many married couples but have always managed to bounce back and maintain a very strong relationship. A large part of maintaining that relationship has been our willingness to keep pushing the boundaries further out. As you can read elsewhere in this blog we have a very healthy sex life. So many people get too comfortable in their relationships and their sexual activities start to become a distant memory. At this point in my opinion they are basically good friends, cohabiting. So unless this arrangement is fully mutual sooner or later one or both of the partners are going to be looking to fill the gap in the relationship with, yup you guessed it, an affair.

A very large percentage of regular folks would recoil in horror at the thought of sharing their partner with someone else but hold on there for a sec and think about it. I actually think it's the small percentage of "lifestyle" folks who got it right.
Right off the hop, a lot of men and women think that somehow they "own" their partner, this being the logic used to justify staying 100% monogamous. Of course there are many other factors in play also, jealousy being one of the major ones. Another example would be "what if my partner likes the other person more and goes off with them"?
Most of these concerns can be overcome provided you have a solid and very trusting relationship, open communication is a vital factor also. Perhaps I'll write more in a future blog about this...

We did not get into a more open type of relationship because we were bored with each other and just wanted to fuck other people. No, we got into it for many different reasons, but this is what I consider to be the primary one.

Because it's exciting for both partners.

Out of deep love and respect for her, my primary goal is to see Alanna happy in all aspects of her life including of course sexually. No, I'm not implying that our sex life was in any way boring, far from it in fact. But trust me, once you step over to the dark side and "release the Kraken" as she puts it, your lives will never be the same again, in a really, really, good way.
Our relationship has gotten stronger as a result of our extra marital activities, hard to believe for that large percentage of regular folks, but 27 years married is all the evidence you should need.

Mike.